When to Call it Quits

So often people continue down a path only because its familiar and comfortable. The path is often ineffective.

Are you on any paths that are not producing the results you need. Mind you, I didn't say the results you wanted. I said need.

Are you challenging yourself in life? Are you building your life (working on it, making it stronger and better) or just living it?

One example I run into frequently is in the therapeutic domain. So many people have gone to the same therapist for years- with minimal results. The most significant result is that they've built a relationship with their therapist that is comfortable. They know what to expect each time they go. They know how the conversation will go. I wholeheartedly believe in the relationship building and need for comfort in this relationship, however, I see it often prove ineffective if the goal is true therapy. The trouble rests in that most people can choose their therapist and they choose one that is easy- one that doesn't challenge them too much. One that agrees with them. It allows them to feel as though they are trying. "Hey, I go to therapy." But, is the therapy effective or is it just a routine? Very few people will continue to go down a difficult path if they can switch to one that is easier.

As a life coach, I often see people who say they want to make some changes but they really don't want to put the effort in. Or, they don't want to put forth the resources that is required to make the changes they want. Its just lip service. They are not ready. But, the only one they let down is themself. Don't be one of these peole. Take control of your life today. Take responsibility for the way that its turning out. Make tomorrow what you want of it. You don't have to do it alone but it may not always be a path of roses either. Grab the rope and hang on- let go when I tell you.

Keep in mind that you have ~85 years in this life to make it worthwhile. Some of those years are already spent. So, what do you plan to do with what is left? Challenge yourself- in all domains. Show us what you are made of.

Some ways to challenge yourself:

• Take a trip by yourself for at least 5 days- ideally in another country
• Take a weekend or week long workshop on something totally new to you
• Discover a new hobby (one that you have dreamed of but thought was impossible for you)
• Revisit what you do for a living and consider a significant change for the better
• Go get the degree you've always wanted
• Write your own memoir in 60 days