I was at a presentation the other day on social media. The presenter illustrated how we are different than our parents’ generation. Young people today have had a dozen jobs before they turn 30, they meet and network online and they multi-task like never before.
I often have this conversation with people. Although I know quite a few people who stay at their jobs 10+, 30+ years, I know far more that change jobs every 3 years. I’ve been one of them (the latter).
I just added my part-time and full-time adventures up. I’ve had more than 25. Mind you, I started working at the age of 12 (“waitressing” for the inquiring minds). I’ve done everything from work as a gas station attendant, serve pizza from a pizza truck on Temple’s campus, deliver messages for a company called Heaven Sent, to work for a police think tank and top-military training company as an Investigative Scientist.
Regarding social media and electronic savvy: I met my husband via MySpace. (Need I say more?) We spoke via email a few months before meeting in person. I also own/manage 2 websites, 2 blogs, 1 Ezine and am frequently on Facebook. One final piece of evidence: I sent video thank you to my wedding guests, rather than traditional stationary thank yous.
And, last point, multi-tasking: For several years I’ve worn multiple hats. Those hats could be for the same company or working multiple jobs at the same time. My max is 3 jobs at once. I have a lot of energy. And, I have a lot of interests. I enjoy taking on interesting projects. (That’s not an invitation… unless you have something really phenomenal…)
I encourage you to consider who you are in today’s world. I think it’s great if you choose to stay in one place for 20+ years. I also think its okay to realize if your goals are elsewhere. My caution is that you get too stuck in your ways. Step outside your primary profession and see what people are doing. Go outside your company to socialize and see what the buzz is. Travel once per year to a place unlike your town. Accept and embrace adventure.
From one adventurer to another. Enjoy.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Friday, June 26, 2009
An Icon Dead at 50? Lessons Learned the Hard Way
What can we learn from Michael Jackson's death?
Well, after grieving the loss of a pop start that defined most of my youth (and likely yours); I encourage you to look at your own life for threats of crisis.
I was in shock when my husband delivered the news to me. (I frequently review the New York Times (online version) each day and listen to NPR, mostly in the car. But, on this sad day I was listening to an audio book in my kitchen preparing dinner.) Within minutes I said to him, “A heart attack at 50! He seemed to be in good shape! I want you and I to take better care of ourselves. I couldn’t imagine losing you at 50.”
The very real possibility of a youthful death entered my mind. I thought about his kids. I thought about what if I would have children and then die young or have my husband do the same. It was eerie.
The autopsy hasn’t been released yet. We don’t know what caused his cardiac arrest. However, we do know what causes them to happen to anyone….. heart disease, stress, using certain drugs, cigarette smoking and exposure to extreme cold. (See linked site above as a reference.)
Are you at risk? If so, do something about it today. You owe it to yourself and your family.
No one should have to lose a loved one at the age of 50. It’s hard enough at 85. But, 50 simply feels like a terrible injustice, particularly to a man billions of people had once loved.
Well, after grieving the loss of a pop start that defined most of my youth (and likely yours); I encourage you to look at your own life for threats of crisis.
I was in shock when my husband delivered the news to me. (I frequently review the New York Times (online version) each day and listen to NPR, mostly in the car. But, on this sad day I was listening to an audio book in my kitchen preparing dinner.) Within minutes I said to him, “A heart attack at 50! He seemed to be in good shape! I want you and I to take better care of ourselves. I couldn’t imagine losing you at 50.”
The very real possibility of a youthful death entered my mind. I thought about his kids. I thought about what if I would have children and then die young or have my husband do the same. It was eerie.
The autopsy hasn’t been released yet. We don’t know what caused his cardiac arrest. However, we do know what causes them to happen to anyone….. heart disease, stress, using certain drugs, cigarette smoking and exposure to extreme cold. (See linked site above as a reference.)
Are you at risk? If so, do something about it today. You owe it to yourself and your family.
No one should have to lose a loved one at the age of 50. It’s hard enough at 85. But, 50 simply feels like a terrible injustice, particularly to a man billions of people had once loved.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
The Other Man in My Life….and he could be yours today
We found “Frankie” last night around midnight. He was wondering the streets with no identification. We call him Frankie because of his gorgeous cool blue eyes.
We spent ½ of our Fathers Day (Rob is so wonderful) finding a shelter for the lovely Frankie. We dropped him off at the Western PA Humane Society (on Western Ave on the North Shore) about an hour ago.
Frankie is awesome. He’s under a year old, spunky, loving, good with people and dogs, trainable….. He knows “sit” (not that he does it consistently) and is housebroken (from our 12 hours with him).
He is a non-neutered male with at least part Pit Bull in him. I’m not sure what the other part it. He has some German Shepard qualities. He is not micro chipped. And, I believe, from some of his early behavior with us, that he may have been hit in his last home.
We want to find Frankie a new and loving home.
If you have considered adopting a pet (any kind of pet) I beg you to visit your local shelters this week.
If you think Frankie could be the man for you please go to the Humane Society in the next few days to meet him. He’ll be on hold for 48 hours in case his owners come forth.
Although we call him Frankie, the Humane Society has him under the ID A107200. Their number is 412-321-4625 and their site is http://www.wpahumane.com/
We spent ½ of our Fathers Day (Rob is so wonderful) finding a shelter for the lovely Frankie. We dropped him off at the Western PA Humane Society (on Western Ave on the North Shore) about an hour ago.
Frankie is awesome. He’s under a year old, spunky, loving, good with people and dogs, trainable….. He knows “sit” (not that he does it consistently) and is housebroken (from our 12 hours with him).
He is a non-neutered male with at least part Pit Bull in him. I’m not sure what the other part it. He has some German Shepard qualities. He is not micro chipped. And, I believe, from some of his early behavior with us, that he may have been hit in his last home.
We want to find Frankie a new and loving home.
If you have considered adopting a pet (any kind of pet) I beg you to visit your local shelters this week.
If you think Frankie could be the man for you please go to the Humane Society in the next few days to meet him. He’ll be on hold for 48 hours in case his owners come forth.
Although we call him Frankie, the Humane Society has him under the ID A107200. Their number is 412-321-4625 and their site is http://www.wpahumane.com/
Please let me know if you followed up on Frankie. I’ll be thinking about him for some time to come.
Please also support your own local shelters to the best of your ability (monetary donations, in-kind donations, volunteering, encouraging spay and neuter programs, etc….)
Many thanks. And, Happy Father’s Day.
Friday, June 19, 2009
Reversal of Attitude
My friend Tara can attest to this. In my late teens, I used to hate going over to someone’s house to “watch a movie”. That was in sharp contrast to years before when Becky and I would spend every Friday night at her place watching one- after going to the high school football game of course.
Why did I hate it so much? I figured I could watch one at home if I wanted to do that- why go elsewhere?! And, I suppose I opted for other alternatives. After all, now you have a car, a license, and the freedom to go anywhere you want. (“Those were the days!” Isn’t that what people say?)
Fast forward to today, 2009. Rob and I can be found “living up our Fridays” at home in a fierce game of Scrabble. In fact, twice this week I’ve been engaged in “scrabble-related” conversations with business colleagues. We’re considering a friendly game in the months ahead. And, a few weeks ago at my wedding, a group of people (unknown to one another until that weekend, by the way) gathered on their last night at the Greenbrier to play cards together.
Attitudes change. Mine has. We can spend hours discussing why and how, but I think the important point is that it’s okay. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to all of a sudden like something you hated. It’s okay to want to do something differently. It’s more than okay, in fact, its highlighting that you are a free-thinker and not controlled by the past.
I still don’t love sitting down and watching television or movies. I get fidgety (mind and body). But, I enjoy doing it occasionally with people who love it- because of what it means to them. Who knows, maybe one day I’ll be yelling “movie time!”
Why did I hate it so much? I figured I could watch one at home if I wanted to do that- why go elsewhere?! And, I suppose I opted for other alternatives. After all, now you have a car, a license, and the freedom to go anywhere you want. (“Those were the days!” Isn’t that what people say?)
Fast forward to today, 2009. Rob and I can be found “living up our Fridays” at home in a fierce game of Scrabble. In fact, twice this week I’ve been engaged in “scrabble-related” conversations with business colleagues. We’re considering a friendly game in the months ahead. And, a few weeks ago at my wedding, a group of people (unknown to one another until that weekend, by the way) gathered on their last night at the Greenbrier to play cards together.
Attitudes change. Mine has. We can spend hours discussing why and how, but I think the important point is that it’s okay. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to all of a sudden like something you hated. It’s okay to want to do something differently. It’s more than okay, in fact, its highlighting that you are a free-thinker and not controlled by the past.
I still don’t love sitting down and watching television or movies. I get fidgety (mind and body). But, I enjoy doing it occasionally with people who love it- because of what it means to them. Who knows, maybe one day I’ll be yelling “movie time!”
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Volunteering Calls You!
Similar to post-9/11, people are looking for greater meaning in their lives. More fulfilling ways to spend their time.
I have several clients who are opting to leave high-powered, 70-hr work weeks, for jobs that pay 1/2 their current salaries but are far more community-centered.
I encourage everyone to volunteer with/for a cause that speaks to them. Volunteering doesn't just mean serving meals to people (a common misconception). It can be offering your expertise to your favorite charity for 10 hours a month (~2 hours a week).
Visit www.volunteermatch.org and type in your zip code and a keyword (choose a word related to your charities of choice such as "children" or "animals"; or choose a word related to what you do, such as "accounting" or "database"). This site will show you opportunities that exist in your area for your keywords.
How much simpler can it be?
Also, call your favorite charities and ask them if they need volunteers. I'd be surprised if they say no.
Happy volunteering. Let's all bring a little more meaning into our lives.
I have several clients who are opting to leave high-powered, 70-hr work weeks, for jobs that pay 1/2 their current salaries but are far more community-centered.
I encourage everyone to volunteer with/for a cause that speaks to them. Volunteering doesn't just mean serving meals to people (a common misconception). It can be offering your expertise to your favorite charity for 10 hours a month (~2 hours a week).
Visit www.volunteermatch.org and type in your zip code and a keyword (choose a word related to your charities of choice such as "children" or "animals"; or choose a word related to what you do, such as "accounting" or "database"). This site will show you opportunities that exist in your area for your keywords.
How much simpler can it be?
Also, call your favorite charities and ask them if they need volunteers. I'd be surprised if they say no.
Happy volunteering. Let's all bring a little more meaning into our lives.
Friday, June 12, 2009
7 Tips for Better Living
What is the recipe for success? What makes a man or woman feel accomplished? The truth is that it’s different for each one of us. It takes a comprehensive look at ourselves, our values, our principles, our desires and our goals to identify what a successful life would look like for us.
But, if I had to share with you a general recipe for better living it would include:
1. Read more, watch less (turn the telly off and pick up a book)
2. Take 1 hour for yourself each day (to exercise, to meditate, to study something, etc…)
3. Create goals for yourself (daily, weekly, monthly and annually)
4. Socialize with others at least once a week outside of your work (a group dinner, happy hour, a group sports event, etc…)
5. Get involved with your community (join a club, volunteer, sit on the board, etc…)
6. Create a personal manifesto that will guide you, your actions, your choices, your decisions….
7. Do a year end review. Ask yourself, “What did I accomplish this past year?” Revisit your goals, hopes, challenges, and successes. Then, design your plan for the year ahead.
But, if I had to share with you a general recipe for better living it would include:
1. Read more, watch less (turn the telly off and pick up a book)
2. Take 1 hour for yourself each day (to exercise, to meditate, to study something, etc…)
3. Create goals for yourself (daily, weekly, monthly and annually)
4. Socialize with others at least once a week outside of your work (a group dinner, happy hour, a group sports event, etc…)
5. Get involved with your community (join a club, volunteer, sit on the board, etc…)
6. Create a personal manifesto that will guide you, your actions, your choices, your decisions….
7. Do a year end review. Ask yourself, “What did I accomplish this past year?” Revisit your goals, hopes, challenges, and successes. Then, design your plan for the year ahead.
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Are you in Paradise?
I posed this question to my husband while we were on our honeymoon in Jamaica. “Would you rather be poor in a town/city you LOVED or be wealthier in a town/city you LIKED?”
The question first came to me when I was in Capri, Italy, in 1996. I was passing a little shack surrounded by grape vines as I rode what looked like a chair lift up the cliff. And I remember thinking to myself, “Yeah, I could totally live in that shack on this gorgeous island.”
How would you answer that question? Here are a few follow up questions: Are you living in a place you LOVE? Are you comfortable where you are living and that makes you enjoy the place all the more? If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
So many people say, “If I could live anywhere, it would be _____”. Just like they say, “If I could have been anything I would have been a _____, instead of what I am/what I do.”
Why live that way? Do you realize that people make a choice to live in their dream town/city every day?
Others work hard to make their town/city their dream place by living their best lives there. It’s kind of like, “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you are with”. I definitely advocate you find a way to be with the one you love, however, there are times I could agree to enjoy what you have for the moment.
Either way, take some time to dream about your ideal living space/s. Dare to ask why you can’t have them if you don’t have them already. Challenge yourself and your family to come up with a plan to move there within 5 years (1 year if you are an overachiever). Then, take a weekend or week long trip there to revisit why you love it so much. Who knows, maybe it’s changed to where you’ll fall in love with another location – or maybe it will serve as motivation to pack your permanent bags!
Happy traveling- and relocating.
The question first came to me when I was in Capri, Italy, in 1996. I was passing a little shack surrounded by grape vines as I rode what looked like a chair lift up the cliff. And I remember thinking to myself, “Yeah, I could totally live in that shack on this gorgeous island.”
How would you answer that question? Here are a few follow up questions: Are you living in a place you LOVE? Are you comfortable where you are living and that makes you enjoy the place all the more? If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
So many people say, “If I could live anywhere, it would be _____”. Just like they say, “If I could have been anything I would have been a _____, instead of what I am/what I do.”
Why live that way? Do you realize that people make a choice to live in their dream town/city every day?
Others work hard to make their town/city their dream place by living their best lives there. It’s kind of like, “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you are with”. I definitely advocate you find a way to be with the one you love, however, there are times I could agree to enjoy what you have for the moment.
Either way, take some time to dream about your ideal living space/s. Dare to ask why you can’t have them if you don’t have them already. Challenge yourself and your family to come up with a plan to move there within 5 years (1 year if you are an overachiever). Then, take a weekend or week long trip there to revisit why you love it so much. Who knows, maybe it’s changed to where you’ll fall in love with another location – or maybe it will serve as motivation to pack your permanent bags!
Happy traveling- and relocating.
Friday, June 5, 2009
Good Old Customer Service- or NOT - a Case Study
You know I’m a stickler for customer service- excellent customer service. And, that I think its DEAD in most places today.
Here’s an example of what happened to me yesterday in one of my prize customer service observation centers- the United States Post Office.
I was in line with 6 other customers (note that I said “customers”). 2 long-term postal clerks were serving customers (I use “serving” very loosely here).
First Observation: a young man (customer) asks the clerk for a dollar and a half in quarters with his change. The clerk looks perturbed. The clerk gives the customer his change without the $1.50 in change. The customer asks politely again. The clerk says in a very defensive tone, “Look, there are three banks within this row. I’m not one of them.” The customer seems embarrassed and politely says, “Ok, sorry about that.”
Second Observation: (30 seconds after the one above) a woman (customer) is having a package weighed by the other clerk in the post office. The clerk asks the customer if she’s ready to ship it, as she was only inquiring about cost. The customer says yes. The clerk then offered a few other ways she could have mailed it. The customer was considering the options and said, “But you’ve already scanned it in haven’t you?” The clerk said, “Yes”. The customer paused. She finally said, “Can you void it so that I can mail it another way?” The clerk said, while rolling her eyes, “yes, I can.” As the customer walked over to another part of the office to examine package materials, the clerk said, out loud and loudly, “Count to 10! Count to 10! It’s been a long Day!”
Do I need to do a post-mortem on these dialogues and what went wrong? I don’t think so. My readers are intelligent enough to know these individuals shouldn’t be in their current positions without serious consultation with a manager. They wouldn’t be my employees- I can guarantee you that.
Do you know the correlation of customer service and repeating revenue? It’s huge. Customers will pay more for better service! Ironically, I understand the Postal Service is experiencing trouble with revenue. Is that a no-brainer? It’s not all due to the age of the internet. People are using Fed Ex and UPS like mad.
I know what you are saying, “Welcome back from your honeymoon Bride. The real world awaits.”
Thanks- Lisa (Mrs. Lisa Spahr)
At least I know I have job security in customer service training. Bring it on. 412.867.9991 Office Line
Here’s an example of what happened to me yesterday in one of my prize customer service observation centers- the United States Post Office.
I was in line with 6 other customers (note that I said “customers”). 2 long-term postal clerks were serving customers (I use “serving” very loosely here).
First Observation: a young man (customer) asks the clerk for a dollar and a half in quarters with his change. The clerk looks perturbed. The clerk gives the customer his change without the $1.50 in change. The customer asks politely again. The clerk says in a very defensive tone, “Look, there are three banks within this row. I’m not one of them.” The customer seems embarrassed and politely says, “Ok, sorry about that.”
Second Observation: (30 seconds after the one above) a woman (customer) is having a package weighed by the other clerk in the post office. The clerk asks the customer if she’s ready to ship it, as she was only inquiring about cost. The customer says yes. The clerk then offered a few other ways she could have mailed it. The customer was considering the options and said, “But you’ve already scanned it in haven’t you?” The clerk said, “Yes”. The customer paused. She finally said, “Can you void it so that I can mail it another way?” The clerk said, while rolling her eyes, “yes, I can.” As the customer walked over to another part of the office to examine package materials, the clerk said, out loud and loudly, “Count to 10! Count to 10! It’s been a long Day!”
Do I need to do a post-mortem on these dialogues and what went wrong? I don’t think so. My readers are intelligent enough to know these individuals shouldn’t be in their current positions without serious consultation with a manager. They wouldn’t be my employees- I can guarantee you that.
Do you know the correlation of customer service and repeating revenue? It’s huge. Customers will pay more for better service! Ironically, I understand the Postal Service is experiencing trouble with revenue. Is that a no-brainer? It’s not all due to the age of the internet. People are using Fed Ex and UPS like mad.
I know what you are saying, “Welcome back from your honeymoon Bride. The real world awaits.”
Thanks- Lisa (Mrs. Lisa Spahr)
At least I know I have job security in customer service training. Bring it on. 412.867.9991 Office Line
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Another Stress Buster!
I’ve been researching cognitive enhancement lately for a project I’m working on. I, like many people, assumed that cognitive decline was a fact of life and would naturally occur as we age. But, the fact of the matter is, that cognitive decline doesn’t have to happen. You can do things daily and today that will impact your risk of dementia, Alzheimer’s, and other disabilities that seem to come with age.
The science is clear, some stronger than others, that diet, exercise, socialization and cognitive training can decrease your risk of cognitive impairment. Some studies even show that taking anti-inflammatories can be a deterrent.
Where does stress come in? Well, it seems that if we thought stress was damaging enough, it just got worse. Your PERCEPTION of stressors in your life (being overwhelmed, believing its worse than it might be, etc...) contributes to your risk of cognitive decline. If you are a “downer” you may be setting your own fate in cognitive damage as you age. I heard one speaker mention a client of his with dementia in his 50’s! I’m not suggesting that was due to stress or his perceived stress but I am saying that the time is TODAY to take your health and mental wellbeing seriously, no matter what age you are.
So, Lisa, what do I do?
Ø Reduce your stress TODAY, NOW by removing stressful people, discussions, memories, events, etc... from your life (stop being a victim and saying that you have to be in this situation, you don’t)
Ø Enroll in daily exercise of some sort. Yoga is a good one. Dedicate one hour a day to stretching, walking, hiking, running, volleyball… what ever you are willing to do.
Ø Eat right. Yes, eat right. Start with your next meal. Make better choices today.
Ø Put the remote down. Stop watching TV. Pick up a book or better yet play a game of cards or a board game with another person.
Ø Visit someone each day for 30 minutes or talk to them on the phone.
Ø See your doctor to assess your risk factors. Your health won’t get better without your intervention.
Ø Learn to love yourself. Find positive things in your life to enjoy and share with others. If you have baggage or pain from the past see a professional. You don’t need to live that way.
Ø Research cognitive exercises. Your brain wants to learn and grow, at any age. Let it.
In health.
Lisa
PS- I’ll be celebrating my nuptials for the next 2 weeks. Enjoy this blog until then. Plus, you may need an extra week to chew on this one- and get your homework done!
The science is clear, some stronger than others, that diet, exercise, socialization and cognitive training can decrease your risk of cognitive impairment. Some studies even show that taking anti-inflammatories can be a deterrent.
Where does stress come in? Well, it seems that if we thought stress was damaging enough, it just got worse. Your PERCEPTION of stressors in your life (being overwhelmed, believing its worse than it might be, etc...) contributes to your risk of cognitive decline. If you are a “downer” you may be setting your own fate in cognitive damage as you age. I heard one speaker mention a client of his with dementia in his 50’s! I’m not suggesting that was due to stress or his perceived stress but I am saying that the time is TODAY to take your health and mental wellbeing seriously, no matter what age you are.
So, Lisa, what do I do?
Ø Reduce your stress TODAY, NOW by removing stressful people, discussions, memories, events, etc... from your life (stop being a victim and saying that you have to be in this situation, you don’t)
Ø Enroll in daily exercise of some sort. Yoga is a good one. Dedicate one hour a day to stretching, walking, hiking, running, volleyball… what ever you are willing to do.
Ø Eat right. Yes, eat right. Start with your next meal. Make better choices today.
Ø Put the remote down. Stop watching TV. Pick up a book or better yet play a game of cards or a board game with another person.
Ø Visit someone each day for 30 minutes or talk to them on the phone.
Ø See your doctor to assess your risk factors. Your health won’t get better without your intervention.
Ø Learn to love yourself. Find positive things in your life to enjoy and share with others. If you have baggage or pain from the past see a professional. You don’t need to live that way.
Ø Research cognitive exercises. Your brain wants to learn and grow, at any age. Let it.
In health.
Lisa
PS- I’ll be celebrating my nuptials for the next 2 weeks. Enjoy this blog until then. Plus, you may need an extra week to chew on this one- and get your homework done!
Sunday, May 17, 2009
An Exercise in Recall
Take an hour this week and sit down with old photo albums. Do this alone or with someone you care about.
Revisit places, people, feelings and events of last month and/or years ago. Think about how you felt at that time in your life. What was going on with you.
Ultimately, I want you to recognize the journey you've been on... and how far you've come. Are you happier now than ever? Or do you still have some work to do to have the life you want?
Spend some time with the old you. Enjoy your old self and find pleasure in the days gone by. If you have any peace to be made with where you were or where you are, do so. Now is the time to make great memories to relive in 10 more years.
Happy memories. And, even happier memory making!
Revisit places, people, feelings and events of last month and/or years ago. Think about how you felt at that time in your life. What was going on with you.
Ultimately, I want you to recognize the journey you've been on... and how far you've come. Are you happier now than ever? Or do you still have some work to do to have the life you want?
Spend some time with the old you. Enjoy your old self and find pleasure in the days gone by. If you have any peace to be made with where you were or where you are, do so. Now is the time to make great memories to relive in 10 more years.
Happy memories. And, even happier memory making!
Friday, May 15, 2009
Gift Giving in Tough Times
Do you remember how we "changed" after 9/11? People reclaimed the family as a priority. We took time for reflection and contemplation of purpose. Well, something slightly similar is happening now with people reexamining how they spend money. Both times bring us back to a tough evaluation of what is really important to us.
I really struggled over whether the economy should effect my wedding site selection. Do I try to have a budget wedding (more than I would normally) to reflect my understanding of the economic downturn? Or, do I find other ways to accommodate the tightening of wallets, while still having my dream wedding. I chose the latter. I did that for more reasons than I can type here (just for time sake) but one was because the economy will correct itself over time, and I didn't want to have to look back at one of the most significant days of my life and say, "I had to do that because the economy...". I fully recognized that some of my guests may no longer be able to come based on my luxurious choice. We can celebrate with them in other ways. But, this is still the wedding I've looked forward to for many years- and I'm not going to let fear dictate how I remember it forever. And, besides, I'm the one encouraging you to stay away from the fear mongers, the nay sayers and the downers who will bring you nothing but depressive thoughts. I help people everyday find jobs, recreate a life they have always wanted, and stay on top of their games (whether that is personal or professional). So, what role model would I be to reject my dreams?
That was a long story to serve the title of this blog: gift giving in tough times. I encourage you to revisit what "gift" means. What are the greatest gifts you've received? Its likely more about the sentiment, the memory, the feeling, than it is about the "thing". So, rethink your next gift to someone you love. Make it memorable- and that doesn't always mean expensive. You may also want to ask them what they want. They may have revisited what is important to them, and give you a surprising answer.
All in good health.
Lisa
I really struggled over whether the economy should effect my wedding site selection. Do I try to have a budget wedding (more than I would normally) to reflect my understanding of the economic downturn? Or, do I find other ways to accommodate the tightening of wallets, while still having my dream wedding. I chose the latter. I did that for more reasons than I can type here (just for time sake) but one was because the economy will correct itself over time, and I didn't want to have to look back at one of the most significant days of my life and say, "I had to do that because the economy...". I fully recognized that some of my guests may no longer be able to come based on my luxurious choice. We can celebrate with them in other ways. But, this is still the wedding I've looked forward to for many years- and I'm not going to let fear dictate how I remember it forever. And, besides, I'm the one encouraging you to stay away from the fear mongers, the nay sayers and the downers who will bring you nothing but depressive thoughts. I help people everyday find jobs, recreate a life they have always wanted, and stay on top of their games (whether that is personal or professional). So, what role model would I be to reject my dreams?
That was a long story to serve the title of this blog: gift giving in tough times. I encourage you to revisit what "gift" means. What are the greatest gifts you've received? Its likely more about the sentiment, the memory, the feeling, than it is about the "thing". So, rethink your next gift to someone you love. Make it memorable- and that doesn't always mean expensive. You may also want to ask them what they want. They may have revisited what is important to them, and give you a surprising answer.
All in good health.
Lisa
Monday, May 11, 2009
Fitness Update
In two months recording time, February to April. Here are the differences in my body measurements.
Measurement: Start Date of February 26, 2009 to April 22, 2009 = Change
Body Weight 178 lbs to 171 lbs =- 7 lbs
Fat Weight 73.6 lbs to 64.7 lbs = - 8.9 lbs
Lean Body Weight 104.4 lbs to 106.3 lbs = + 1.9 lbs
Neck 13" to 12 1/2" = - 1/2"
Biceps 12 7/8" to 12 1/8" = - 3/4"
Forearm 9 7/8" to 9 5/8" = - 1/4"
Wrist 5 7/8" to 5 7/8" = 0
Waist 36" to 34 3/4" = - 1 1/4"
Hips 44 1/2" to 42 1/2" = - 2"
Top-Thigh 26 3/4" to 26 1/4" = - 1/2"
Mid-Thigh 22 1/2" to 22 1/4" = - 1/4"
Calf 15 7/8" to 16 3/8" = + 1/2"
Ankle 8 3/4" to 9 1/8" = + 1/4"
Shoulder Width 16 3/8" to 16 3/4" = + 3/8"
Hips Width 15 7/8" to 14 3/8" = - 1 1/2"
You can see that these measurements are often the ones that keep you going- not just the numbers on the scale. Don't be discouraged. I wasn't. I was sometimes disappointed but never discouraged. I knew I was working hard and doing the right things. The numbers will eventually follow with their ups and downs.
Now that my marathon is over. I'll continue running for 1/2 hour when I work out but now focus on weights so my arms look the best they can in that special dress I get to wear in two weeks.
Happy health to you.
Measurement: Start Date of February 26, 2009 to April 22, 2009 = Change
Body Weight 178 lbs to 171 lbs =- 7 lbs
Fat Weight 73.6 lbs to 64.7 lbs = - 8.9 lbs
Lean Body Weight 104.4 lbs to 106.3 lbs = + 1.9 lbs
Neck 13" to 12 1/2" = - 1/2"
Biceps 12 7/8" to 12 1/8" = - 3/4"
Forearm 9 7/8" to 9 5/8" = - 1/4"
Wrist 5 7/8" to 5 7/8" = 0
Waist 36" to 34 3/4" = - 1 1/4"
Hips 44 1/2" to 42 1/2" = - 2"
Top-Thigh 26 3/4" to 26 1/4" = - 1/2"
Mid-Thigh 22 1/2" to 22 1/4" = - 1/4"
Calf 15 7/8" to 16 3/8" = + 1/2"
Ankle 8 3/4" to 9 1/8" = + 1/4"
Shoulder Width 16 3/8" to 16 3/4" = + 3/8"
Hips Width 15 7/8" to 14 3/8" = - 1 1/2"
You can see that these measurements are often the ones that keep you going- not just the numbers on the scale. Don't be discouraged. I wasn't. I was sometimes disappointed but never discouraged. I knew I was working hard and doing the right things. The numbers will eventually follow with their ups and downs.
Now that my marathon is over. I'll continue running for 1/2 hour when I work out but now focus on weights so my arms look the best they can in that special dress I get to wear in two weeks.
Happy health to you.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Salute to a Mother's Sacrifice
It would be remiss of me to not blog about my mother as we near Mother’s Day 2009.
If you’ve ever heard me speak, you’ve likely heard me speak about my mother. I attribute every great thing I am, have done or will do, to her parenting. All the bad things…. Well they must be from the father I never met. (insert smile here)
I was raised by a single mother. She got pregnant with me very young. Her hopes of one day becoming a nurse were drawn to a close as she made plans to try to raise me the best she could. I had a great life growing up. She experienced many hard times, but I was mostly oblivious to it. I knew we didn’t have much money but money was not the mainstay of a child’s life. We lived in a row of little houses and duplexes with other single parents and an abundance of children to play with. My childhood memories are very happy. I was spoiled rotten- with love.
My mother often worked a full and part time job during her life to make ends meet. I’ll never forget the day I went to her part-time job (dishwasher at a large department store that no longer exists) to tell her I got into Temple University. (She hadn’t even known I applied.) I remember the shock, the joy and the tears. She was elated that her only child was going to college. But, she was also numb with the prospect of me asking for her to help pay for it. I never did ask. I wouldn’t have dared. She had done quite enough to give me the tools I would need to be successful. Now it was my turn to show her how much I learned. I learned successful and rewarding life strategies each and every day in her shadow.
My hat is off to my mom and every mom out there who has sacrificed for her child/ren.
Remember, being perfect is overrated. We don’t want or expect mothers to do that. We just hope you show us your best so we can learn it and one day show it to someone too.
If you’ve ever heard me speak, you’ve likely heard me speak about my mother. I attribute every great thing I am, have done or will do, to her parenting. All the bad things…. Well they must be from the father I never met. (insert smile here)
I was raised by a single mother. She got pregnant with me very young. Her hopes of one day becoming a nurse were drawn to a close as she made plans to try to raise me the best she could. I had a great life growing up. She experienced many hard times, but I was mostly oblivious to it. I knew we didn’t have much money but money was not the mainstay of a child’s life. We lived in a row of little houses and duplexes with other single parents and an abundance of children to play with. My childhood memories are very happy. I was spoiled rotten- with love.
My mother often worked a full and part time job during her life to make ends meet. I’ll never forget the day I went to her part-time job (dishwasher at a large department store that no longer exists) to tell her I got into Temple University. (She hadn’t even known I applied.) I remember the shock, the joy and the tears. She was elated that her only child was going to college. But, she was also numb with the prospect of me asking for her to help pay for it. I never did ask. I wouldn’t have dared. She had done quite enough to give me the tools I would need to be successful. Now it was my turn to show her how much I learned. I learned successful and rewarding life strategies each and every day in her shadow.
My hat is off to my mom and every mom out there who has sacrificed for her child/ren.
Remember, being perfect is overrated. We don’t want or expect mothers to do that. We just hope you show us your best so we can learn it and one day show it to someone too.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
I DID IT! Pittsburgh Marathon 2009!
I did it! The Pittsburgh Marathon came back to Pittsburgh this year and I ran in it. I’ve never had a runner’s body- nor a runner's will. But, I worked hard for several months and I completed the marathon with a relay team, MetaFitness1. I am very proud of myself. And, I was really exhilarated by the people that came out to cheer us on!The alarm came way too early this morning, 4:45 AM! But, we had until 5:30 AM to get ourselves out the door to join 10,000 other runners in the Strip District of Pittsburgh. Yesterday I got all of my running preparations completed – down to what meals I would eat before and after (the celebratory meal!).
I walked and ran my leg (7.2 miles) of the marathon. I ran for 1 minute and walked for 2-3 minutes at a time. My body was straining at first, until my shins got warm they were screaming! But soon, I was in a groove. The IPod was loaded with hundreds of songs to keep me going. For the first 2 miles it was really hard to stop running (5.2-5.6 MPH) and keep up a great walking pace (around 3.6-3.8 MPH). My body thought we were taking a break- and really wanted to stop. But, after pushing through a few rounds, the harmony was there.
I used any decline to my advantage. I took all of the water and Gatorade offered to me at the stops. Although I must confess walking and drinking isn’t my strongest skill, so most of it landed on my shirt. I paced myself and realized I was doing far better on time than I had in all of my training and my dry run the week before. I was feeling quite pleased.
I planned (at worst) to walk the whole thing and finish in 2 hours with a 15-minute mile. Runners would laugh at that stat but walkers would most likely find it very admirable. It’s hard to keep up, especially off the treadmill and on surface roads. I did better than I expected. With my running bursts, I made the complete trip in 1.5 hours! Shaving off 30 minutes from my plan!
The coolest parts of the marathon included:
Being on the 16th Street Bridge, closed to traffic of course, and feeling the cool morning air rushing against me. I felt like the whole bridge was mine. The views were spectacular. And, the experience heightened the reality that I was accomplishing a goal I would have never dreamed a year ago. I was running in a marathon. How cool is that!
Seeing the volunteers and especially the youth involved in the marathon. They held water for us, cheered us on, supported their proud city by inviting those not from here to “live in our city neighborhoods” and “come to our city schools”. It was awesome.
Now don’t get me wrong, I needed to rest afterwards (after the high wore off). And, I needed shower. Oh, and that celebratory meal. But, it wasn’t 30 minutes after my finish that I told Rob I’d like to do the ½ marathon next year. He said he’d do it with me. (Big Smile)
Now, go do something wild and extraordinary for yourself today. I’m going to rest. After I post a short clip on my start on you tube.
Friday, May 1, 2009
The Company of Friends
This picture is of my Hen Happy Hour last weekend. It was a wonderful time to connect with local friends and take a break from our every day routines.I don't do that enough. Or maybe I do and I'm looking for an excuse to do more of it. (Insert Smile Here)
This blog is to remind you of the importance of connecting with others- and getting out of the house or office.
Tell me what you accomplished last week that truly enriched your life? If you can't name anything you really need to get out and share an evening with a friend or group of friends. You'll be refreshed and find rejuvenation in them (if they are the right kinds of friends). Keep it upbeat. Limit the doom and gloom talk. Limit the gossip. Tell your own stories and just sit back and laugh. Or, draw each other in a deep discussion that is all consuming (if that is your cup of tea).
People can fuel us. Connections can sustain us. They have to be the right people and the right connections. If you aren't being fueled, you have to ask yourself why not? It may not be the right person or connection. Do yourself a favor and find them. They are waiting for you as much as you are waiting for them.
Get out of the office for lunch today. Get out this weekend for coffee/tea with a dear friend. Or, choose to connect with nature- go for a hike.
PS- I'm walking/running my first marathon this Sunday (the Pittsburgh Marathon). I'm doing the first leg of a relay. Think about me, if you are awake at 6:30 AM -8:30 AM on Sunday. (Another Smile Inserted Here)
Monday, April 27, 2009
Do Something Unexpected for Someone Today.
In the last week and a half I've been overwhelmed at the kindness, generosity, and love that has poured through my mailbox. My best friend orchestrated a "card shower" for my upcoming wedding. At first I thought it was just circumstance that a few friends were sharing these wonderful memories with me by mail. But on the third receipt I knew there was a planner behind it!
I can't begin to tell you how I felt knowing that people took to time to share so much with me. My best friend went well above and beyond any expectation I could fathom. In fact, I had no expectation. There was no shower planned. She created one! (How did I get so lucky to get her in this life?)
Do something unplanned for someone you care about today. They'll never forget that you did so. And, it may bring more than one tear to their eye, as it did mine.
I can't begin to tell you how I felt knowing that people took to time to share so much with me. My best friend went well above and beyond any expectation I could fathom. In fact, I had no expectation. There was no shower planned. She created one! (How did I get so lucky to get her in this life?)
Do something unplanned for someone you care about today. They'll never forget that you did so. And, it may bring more than one tear to their eye, as it did mine.
Friday, April 24, 2009
That was a Bad Decision!
This week I was reminded of bad decisions. We all make them, sometimes. And, for the most part, we also recognize that they are likely bad decisions. Still, we do them.
I encourage you to identify a bad decision and then chose more wisely. Ask yourself what the true benefits are to the bad choice over the one you know is better for you.
Here are some bad choices:
1. Choosing to get a new puppy when you have a baby (thinking they’ll grow up together and it will be beautiful)
2. Choosing to have someone in your life that is detrimental to your health (physical, mental and emotional)
3. Choosing to open your body or mind to addiction (usually people do this for the short-term benefits)
4. Choosing to let one comment or one experience ruin your day (this can be expanded to week, month and year/s)
5. Choosing to deny yourself joy because you don’t think you deserve it
6. Choosing to let your anger get the best of you by acting out or drowning in a substance rather than accept conflict and work through it openly, honestly, carefully and without further offense to anyone
7. Choosing things that are beyond your means (because you deserve them)
…. The list goes on but I’ll let you create your own.
Today is the day to rid yourself of bad choices. It’s like food choices- you get a lot of chances to practice. If you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up. Just, strive to better with the next opportunity.
Monday, April 20, 2009
172.4 and feeling great
OK, last week the scale said 171.0. GREAT! This week 172.4. Well, there is a good reason for that- and I'll spare all of our male readers but you can guess what it is. We, women, have a few pound fluctuation each month during a particular week.
I had a killer shin splint on Friday from my fast-paced walking (for an hour) on Thursday. Funny, my body prefers to run vs. walk fast as measured by how I get shin splints from walking and not running! Weird but true. But, I worked through the pain- working out for a full 1 hour on Friday, Sunday and Monday. I took Saturday off. (I am allotted one day per week to not work out.) This morning I went back to running for a minute in between walking. My body has really adjusted nicely to that. I find that I can run for more minutes than before. GREAT!
The marathon is just a few weeks away. The wedding a few more than that. I feel wonderful. I know the numbers haven't budged much but my confidence and strength sure have! My trainers tell me not to worry about the weight as much because I'm really putting on great muscle in my legs from the workouts. And, my nutritionist is mostly happy with my eating plan. Yes, I can do better!
So, its off to another great week. I've got a few exciting events this week but plan to remain vigilant to my health plan (with Friday being my exception!).
If you are in Pittsburgh, and female, join me and my fitness team for a workshop on Thursday. See my website for details. RSVP today if you want to attend.
Health, happiness and prosperity to each of you. Keep up the good fight to gain your health back!
I had a killer shin splint on Friday from my fast-paced walking (for an hour) on Thursday. Funny, my body prefers to run vs. walk fast as measured by how I get shin splints from walking and not running! Weird but true. But, I worked through the pain- working out for a full 1 hour on Friday, Sunday and Monday. I took Saturday off. (I am allotted one day per week to not work out.) This morning I went back to running for a minute in between walking. My body has really adjusted nicely to that. I find that I can run for more minutes than before. GREAT!
The marathon is just a few weeks away. The wedding a few more than that. I feel wonderful. I know the numbers haven't budged much but my confidence and strength sure have! My trainers tell me not to worry about the weight as much because I'm really putting on great muscle in my legs from the workouts. And, my nutritionist is mostly happy with my eating plan. Yes, I can do better!
So, its off to another great week. I've got a few exciting events this week but plan to remain vigilant to my health plan (with Friday being my exception!).
If you are in Pittsburgh, and female, join me and my fitness team for a workshop on Thursday. See my website for details. RSVP today if you want to attend.
Health, happiness and prosperity to each of you. Keep up the good fight to gain your health back!
Friday, April 17, 2009
I'm Quitting! You're Fired! Well, let's be rational.....
Today’s blog is for both employees and employers. The bottom line is that it’s better to work it out and stay than it is to find someone new or a new job.
Employers:
What is your cost for hiring and training a new employee? You will want to do this for each type of employee you have as the costs may be different depending upon training and recruiting. How long do you have an employee before they “paid for themselves”? This could be that their service paid for the cost of hiring, training, and retaining or it could be that they are self-sufficient, bringing in funds to match their own salaries 1:1 or better 5:1. As your employees stay with you over the years, do they become more or less valuable? Evaluate this too.
Make sure you know how much employees actually cost you before you haphazardly get rid of them. Make sure you know how long employee retention benefits you. When is it the easiest time to replace an employee for an equally qualified candidate? How do you put a price on institutional knowledge?
There are all kinds of questions to consider before knowing when to “let go” of employees.
I often see employees released over an improper fit with the workplace climate, or over a lack of communication and mutual understanding. I can tell you this, I’d rather have worked it out to save my company the thousands (perhaps hundreds of thousands) that it will cost to have a “poor fire”. (I call a “poor fire” a situation where someone was let go when they could have been saved.)
Take this decision very seriously, more so than you have. And, have the numbers to back it up. Know what the cost is to you, your company and the team the employee worked on. It’s usually easier to let them go- but it’s very costly. With a little work, you could have a satisfied employee, team and company. Try it.
Employees:
If you are dissatisfied at work, I encourage you to work hard to work it out rather than leave. Leaving is the easiest of the remedies but it’s also the most costly to you. How much did you spend on landing and holding this job? Add your hours, your actual costs (mailings, travel, meetings, literature, etc…) and your time spent in the position to understand your investment. Don’t just throw that away- especially if this is a pattern of what you normally do. It will show on your resume and a wise HR person will recognize it right away.
Rather, I suggest you make sure you’ve talked with your supervisor about your professional frustrations. Talk with a nonbiased party to have them look at the situation and offer suggestions. Remain professional at all times and confront the conflict in an open and “solution-driven” way. Don’t just look to fuel conflict. Look to resolve it with the other party/ies. Focus on other things for a few weeks (personal hobbies or throw yourself into a work project) to take your mind off of it. Have coffee with a friendly and open colleague in another company to see that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Every position comes with pros and cons. S/he may have suggestions for you too.
Whether you are the employee or the employer, don’t throw in the towel too soon (as >70% do). Recognize your investment and work on it, like any other relationship. Give it the respect, professionalism and resources it deserves to be wildly successful. Remember, most things can be turned around.
Employers:
What is your cost for hiring and training a new employee? You will want to do this for each type of employee you have as the costs may be different depending upon training and recruiting. How long do you have an employee before they “paid for themselves”? This could be that their service paid for the cost of hiring, training, and retaining or it could be that they are self-sufficient, bringing in funds to match their own salaries 1:1 or better 5:1. As your employees stay with you over the years, do they become more or less valuable? Evaluate this too.
Make sure you know how much employees actually cost you before you haphazardly get rid of them. Make sure you know how long employee retention benefits you. When is it the easiest time to replace an employee for an equally qualified candidate? How do you put a price on institutional knowledge?
There are all kinds of questions to consider before knowing when to “let go” of employees.
I often see employees released over an improper fit with the workplace climate, or over a lack of communication and mutual understanding. I can tell you this, I’d rather have worked it out to save my company the thousands (perhaps hundreds of thousands) that it will cost to have a “poor fire”. (I call a “poor fire” a situation where someone was let go when they could have been saved.)
Take this decision very seriously, more so than you have. And, have the numbers to back it up. Know what the cost is to you, your company and the team the employee worked on. It’s usually easier to let them go- but it’s very costly. With a little work, you could have a satisfied employee, team and company. Try it.
Employees:
If you are dissatisfied at work, I encourage you to work hard to work it out rather than leave. Leaving is the easiest of the remedies but it’s also the most costly to you. How much did you spend on landing and holding this job? Add your hours, your actual costs (mailings, travel, meetings, literature, etc…) and your time spent in the position to understand your investment. Don’t just throw that away- especially if this is a pattern of what you normally do. It will show on your resume and a wise HR person will recognize it right away.
Rather, I suggest you make sure you’ve talked with your supervisor about your professional frustrations. Talk with a nonbiased party to have them look at the situation and offer suggestions. Remain professional at all times and confront the conflict in an open and “solution-driven” way. Don’t just look to fuel conflict. Look to resolve it with the other party/ies. Focus on other things for a few weeks (personal hobbies or throw yourself into a work project) to take your mind off of it. Have coffee with a friendly and open colleague in another company to see that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Every position comes with pros and cons. S/he may have suggestions for you too.
Whether you are the employee or the employer, don’t throw in the towel too soon (as >70% do). Recognize your investment and work on it, like any other relationship. Give it the respect, professionalism and resources it deserves to be wildly successful. Remember, most things can be turned around.
Monday, April 13, 2009
I Love HOT Sneakers!
I'm not talking about attractive sneakers.
I'm talking about the warmth of my sneaker tread when I'm stretching after an hour of walking and running. As you know I've recently challenged myself to walk/run a relay in the Pittsburgh Marathon. My leg is 7.1 miles or maybe 7.6. Truthfully, I haven't obsessed over the length. I'm most concerned with how much of it I can run versus walk. As of now 75% will be walked with intermittent running. I've never been a runner. But, that is changing.
Its so exciting to challenge myself for a task I've always wanted to to but was never prepared for. Or, I was simply too afraid to try.
I hope you are challenging yourself to do something this year. It could be a difficult emotional task or exploration or it could be something else. Just do it. Know that you are more powerful by just trying.
I'm talking about the warmth of my sneaker tread when I'm stretching after an hour of walking and running. As you know I've recently challenged myself to walk/run a relay in the Pittsburgh Marathon. My leg is 7.1 miles or maybe 7.6. Truthfully, I haven't obsessed over the length. I'm most concerned with how much of it I can run versus walk. As of now 75% will be walked with intermittent running. I've never been a runner. But, that is changing.
Its so exciting to challenge myself for a task I've always wanted to to but was never prepared for. Or, I was simply too afraid to try.
I hope you are challenging yourself to do something this year. It could be a difficult emotional task or exploration or it could be something else. Just do it. Know that you are more powerful by just trying.
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