I am blogging today instead of Friday as I'll be too full of Turkey to do anything (not really, it just sounded good).
I'd like to remain on my thankful thoughts this week by sharing with you an extraordinary new initiative that I'm honored to be a part of... Foodie Fundraising. Foodie Fundraising features my book World War II Radio Heroes: Letters of Compassion (2008).
Foodie Fundraising is a new site and project by Debra Dion Krischke. She is passionate about supporting women worldwide- as am I. She has created Foodie Fundraising to feature several gift items that can be purchased with the goal of giving some of the purchase price to women's initiatives worldwide.
I encourage you to visit Foodie Fundraising at http://www.foodiefundraising.com/ and shop for the holidays. Also, pause for a moment to imagine the lives that so many women are living - often without the necessities and luxuries that we've become accustomed to. Imagine living one day without clean water. Imagine living without electricity. Or worse, imagine dreaming about a life free of violence toward you or your children.
What are you most thankful for?
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Monday, November 24, 2008
176.2
"What on earth is 176.2," you ask? My weight.
I am doing something wild and brazen- as is often the case with me in case you don't know. I am planning to blog every third Monday about my battle with weight- which I intend to win (another thing about me you might not know- I hate to lose).
So, here is our starting point. I say "our" because I am often asked by people how I managed weight loss in the past. So many people, women and men, are on that journey to better health and self-esteem. I encourage you to join me. Comment on your own journey as we go or just check in and use me as your partner on the journey. I'm here to win. I'm also here to help you win.
First, a little history. I was always a fat little girl. My mom was always the slender gal she is today. People often commented on how we didn't appear to share the same genes even though our faces look the same. She put me on diet after diet during my pre-teen years. Nothing worked. Maybe it was the candy she'd give me as she found it hard to deny her only child the sweets other children were getting. (Ironically, I don't like desserts. I'm not a chocolate fan. And, sweets are far from my caloric problem areas.) I recall many a day crying at home on my bed after school because of people making fun of me at school. But, those days are far over. Let's move on.
At the age of 12 I lost 50 pounds in 3 months. I played tennis everyday, however badly. I ate junk (you can do that at 12) and took up other bad habits (which I won't mention here). I entered high school with high self-esteem (although I still felt fat at 130) and tons of positive attention (not sure that was what I needed, but it was the case nonetheless).
As I grew into my 20's the weight slowly came back. In college I was probably 180 or so- but I still felt great and didn't have any self-esteem issues.
It wasn't until 32 my weight became a crisis again. My new doctor alerted me that I had high blood pressure. What? Me? No! My weight was now at 213 (according to his scale) and 209 according to mine. :) I had a big problem, pardon the pun.
So, over the next two years I dropped 62 pounds. I was down to 151 and felt fabulous. Blood pressure was no longer an issue.
Since that time, the pounds have snuck back on. I dropped the ball. I started to eat badly, often. I ignored the gym pass I pay a fortune for. And, I was convinced my fiance was just washing our clothes in hot water. :)
Today's Renewed Determination. I have toyed with renewing my determination to loose weight for a few weeks now - probably more like a few months. But, the kick in the pants you need sometimes comes at odd times that do or do not correspond with your desires. It's here now.
My clothes don't fit the way I want them to. I am feeling bad about my body (which hasn't been the case since I was 12). And, I have a wedding in almost 6 months. So, here goes....
Goal: I will lose 30 pounds (146.2) in 6 months (May 24, 2008).
I will chart my progress on this blog.
I will achieve this goal by hitting the gym 5 days per week for at least 45 minutes per workout (not counting arriving, parking, changing, chatting....). I will make better food and beverage choices starting today: nothing fried, more fish, more veggies, more raw food, less sugar, less bread.....
Join me friends. Let's make this holiday season about our health and well being. Its not going to be easy but its going to be one of the most rewarding things we can do for ourselves.
Yours truly at 176.2
Lisa
I am doing something wild and brazen- as is often the case with me in case you don't know. I am planning to blog every third Monday about my battle with weight- which I intend to win (another thing about me you might not know- I hate to lose).
So, here is our starting point. I say "our" because I am often asked by people how I managed weight loss in the past. So many people, women and men, are on that journey to better health and self-esteem. I encourage you to join me. Comment on your own journey as we go or just check in and use me as your partner on the journey. I'm here to win. I'm also here to help you win.
First, a little history. I was always a fat little girl. My mom was always the slender gal she is today. People often commented on how we didn't appear to share the same genes even though our faces look the same. She put me on diet after diet during my pre-teen years. Nothing worked. Maybe it was the candy she'd give me as she found it hard to deny her only child the sweets other children were getting. (Ironically, I don't like desserts. I'm not a chocolate fan. And, sweets are far from my caloric problem areas.) I recall many a day crying at home on my bed after school because of people making fun of me at school. But, those days are far over. Let's move on.
At the age of 12 I lost 50 pounds in 3 months. I played tennis everyday, however badly. I ate junk (you can do that at 12) and took up other bad habits (which I won't mention here). I entered high school with high self-esteem (although I still felt fat at 130) and tons of positive attention (not sure that was what I needed, but it was the case nonetheless).
As I grew into my 20's the weight slowly came back. In college I was probably 180 or so- but I still felt great and didn't have any self-esteem issues.
It wasn't until 32 my weight became a crisis again. My new doctor alerted me that I had high blood pressure. What? Me? No! My weight was now at 213 (according to his scale) and 209 according to mine. :) I had a big problem, pardon the pun.
So, over the next two years I dropped 62 pounds. I was down to 151 and felt fabulous. Blood pressure was no longer an issue.
Since that time, the pounds have snuck back on. I dropped the ball. I started to eat badly, often. I ignored the gym pass I pay a fortune for. And, I was convinced my fiance was just washing our clothes in hot water. :)
Today's Renewed Determination. I have toyed with renewing my determination to loose weight for a few weeks now - probably more like a few months. But, the kick in the pants you need sometimes comes at odd times that do or do not correspond with your desires. It's here now.
My clothes don't fit the way I want them to. I am feeling bad about my body (which hasn't been the case since I was 12). And, I have a wedding in almost 6 months. So, here goes....
Goal: I will lose 30 pounds (146.2) in 6 months (May 24, 2008).
I will chart my progress on this blog.
I will achieve this goal by hitting the gym 5 days per week for at least 45 minutes per workout (not counting arriving, parking, changing, chatting....). I will make better food and beverage choices starting today: nothing fried, more fish, more veggies, more raw food, less sugar, less bread.....
Join me friends. Let's make this holiday season about our health and well being. Its not going to be easy but its going to be one of the most rewarding things we can do for ourselves.
Yours truly at 176.2
Lisa
Friday, November 21, 2008
Creating Your Plan for 2009
Now is the time to lay out your life map for 2009. Here's an quick step version of how to do that.
- Spend some time in thought- what do you want to accomplish in 2009, why, and what are the small steps to get you there
- Write down your goals, rationales for those goals, and timelines for the small steps
- Tell everyone about your goals. Share your written plan with them so they can support you. Encourage them to have a plan and encourage each other.
- You must hold yourself accountable to the steps and timelines- or find someone who will hold you accountable (remember, this is your life- don't cheat yourself out of another year)
- Review your goals daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly and annually (depending upon how they are written)
- Forgive yourself for minor missteps and get back on the plan immediately (we all eat a little chocolate while on a diet)
- Reward yourself for the milestones you achieve
- Repeat as necessary
My plan also includes data on my status; what did I accomplish this year; what attributes do I have that allow me to achieve my goals; what am I thankful for; what are my 5 year and life's goals; etc..... This is more like a report or guide versus a single piece of paper. I run my life rather than let life run me. This guide helps me do that.
Happy 2009!
Monday, November 17, 2008
When to Call it Quits
So often people continue down a path only because its familiar and comfortable. The path is often ineffective.
Are you on any paths that are not producing the results you need. Mind you, I didn't say the results you wanted. I said need.
Are you challenging yourself in life? Are you building your life (working on it, making it stronger and better) or just living it?
One example I run into frequently is in the therapeutic domain. So many people have gone to the same therapist for years- with minimal results. The most significant result is that they've built a relationship with their therapist that is comfortable. They know what to expect each time they go. They know how the conversation will go. I wholeheartedly believe in the relationship building and need for comfort in this relationship, however, I see it often prove ineffective if the goal is true therapy. The trouble rests in that most people can choose their therapist and they choose one that is easy- one that doesn't challenge them too much. One that agrees with them. It allows them to feel as though they are trying. "Hey, I go to therapy." But, is the therapy effective or is it just a routine? Very few people will continue to go down a difficult path if they can switch to one that is easier.
As a life coach, I often see people who say they want to make some changes but they really don't want to put the effort in. Or, they don't want to put forth the resources that is required to make the changes they want. Its just lip service. They are not ready. But, the only one they let down is themself. Don't be one of these peole. Take control of your life today. Take responsibility for the way that its turning out. Make tomorrow what you want of it. You don't have to do it alone but it may not always be a path of roses either. Grab the rope and hang on- let go when I tell you.
Keep in mind that you have ~85 years in this life to make it worthwhile. Some of those years are already spent. So, what do you plan to do with what is left? Challenge yourself- in all domains. Show us what you are made of.
Some ways to challenge yourself:
Are you on any paths that are not producing the results you need. Mind you, I didn't say the results you wanted. I said need.
Are you challenging yourself in life? Are you building your life (working on it, making it stronger and better) or just living it?
One example I run into frequently is in the therapeutic domain. So many people have gone to the same therapist for years- with minimal results. The most significant result is that they've built a relationship with their therapist that is comfortable. They know what to expect each time they go. They know how the conversation will go. I wholeheartedly believe in the relationship building and need for comfort in this relationship, however, I see it often prove ineffective if the goal is true therapy. The trouble rests in that most people can choose their therapist and they choose one that is easy- one that doesn't challenge them too much. One that agrees with them. It allows them to feel as though they are trying. "Hey, I go to therapy." But, is the therapy effective or is it just a routine? Very few people will continue to go down a difficult path if they can switch to one that is easier.
As a life coach, I often see people who say they want to make some changes but they really don't want to put the effort in. Or, they don't want to put forth the resources that is required to make the changes they want. Its just lip service. They are not ready. But, the only one they let down is themself. Don't be one of these peole. Take control of your life today. Take responsibility for the way that its turning out. Make tomorrow what you want of it. You don't have to do it alone but it may not always be a path of roses either. Grab the rope and hang on- let go when I tell you.
Keep in mind that you have ~85 years in this life to make it worthwhile. Some of those years are already spent. So, what do you plan to do with what is left? Challenge yourself- in all domains. Show us what you are made of.
Some ways to challenge yourself:
- Take a trip by yourself for at least 5 days- ideally in another country
- Take a weekend or week long workshop on something totally new to you
- Discover a new hobby (one that you have dreamed of but thought was impossible for you)
- Revisit what you do for a living and consider a significant change for the better
- Go get the degree you've always wanted
- Write your own memoir in 60 days
Friday, November 14, 2008
Gain Some Perspective
I'm going to share a story with you that unfolded just yesterday.
I had a business lunch on my calendar for a few weeks. My lunch date was a woman who I adore as both a friend and a master business leader in our area. I love the time we spend together. Its often filled with wild ideas- neither of us put limits on each other- and bright visions of the future and the work we can do together. We don't spend time ho humming about the economy or in the doom and gloom conversation I often hear others engaged in.
So, there I waited at our scheduled destination. I somehow knew I would remain by myself.
I tried to remember if I had confirmed. I thought I had but yet couldn't find the message on my blackberry.
I had recalled getting an email from her to the masses a few days earlier about her daughter- but she often sends them so I didn't rush to open it. It would have to wait, along with a few hundred others, that came in and were not a top priority (or so I thought).
I know something is wrong as 10 minutes have passed, pass the time we were scheduled to meet. She is not one to be late. I emailed her.
She emailed me promptly back from her iPhone and told me that she was in the hospital with her daughter- who had been there for 4 days and is expected to be there another 8 or 21 more.
We talked at some length. I offered to pull an overnight duty if she needed a break. It was the least that I could do.
I felt terrible. I was so caught up in every day business that I failed to take 30 seconds to open an email from a friend.
Life sometimes gets the best of us. It had got the best of me this week. I had 12 speaking engagements, client meetings and the usual business events to attend. And, I was wildly enthusiastic about my business brainstorming with a dear girlfriend. But business isn't the be-all-end-all in life. Life is more than that.
I think about my superstar business girlfriend overseeing her daughter in the hospital and am reminded that THAT is what life is about. Being there for those we love.
I had a business lunch on my calendar for a few weeks. My lunch date was a woman who I adore as both a friend and a master business leader in our area. I love the time we spend together. Its often filled with wild ideas- neither of us put limits on each other- and bright visions of the future and the work we can do together. We don't spend time ho humming about the economy or in the doom and gloom conversation I often hear others engaged in.
So, there I waited at our scheduled destination. I somehow knew I would remain by myself.
I tried to remember if I had confirmed. I thought I had but yet couldn't find the message on my blackberry.
I had recalled getting an email from her to the masses a few days earlier about her daughter- but she often sends them so I didn't rush to open it. It would have to wait, along with a few hundred others, that came in and were not a top priority (or so I thought).
I know something is wrong as 10 minutes have passed, pass the time we were scheduled to meet. She is not one to be late. I emailed her.
She emailed me promptly back from her iPhone and told me that she was in the hospital with her daughter- who had been there for 4 days and is expected to be there another 8 or 21 more.
We talked at some length. I offered to pull an overnight duty if she needed a break. It was the least that I could do.
I felt terrible. I was so caught up in every day business that I failed to take 30 seconds to open an email from a friend.
Life sometimes gets the best of us. It had got the best of me this week. I had 12 speaking engagements, client meetings and the usual business events to attend. And, I was wildly enthusiastic about my business brainstorming with a dear girlfriend. But business isn't the be-all-end-all in life. Life is more than that.
I think about my superstar business girlfriend overseeing her daughter in the hospital and am reminded that THAT is what life is about. Being there for those we love.
Monday, November 10, 2008
Thank a Veteran Tomorrow
Tomorrow, Tuesday November 11, 2008, is Veteran's Day.
As most of you know Veterans are very close to my heart. I recently wrote a book that features my favorite veteran, my grandfather, Robert May Spahr. (www.powletters.com)
I hope that you'll take a minute to thank a Veteran (or dozens of them) and his or her family for their contributions to our country, health and well being. We owe them greatly.
Thank you for recognizing the need to be thankful. Its an attractive virtue.
Only the best to each of you.
Lisa Spahr
As most of you know Veterans are very close to my heart. I recently wrote a book that features my favorite veteran, my grandfather, Robert May Spahr. (www.powletters.com)
I hope that you'll take a minute to thank a Veteran (or dozens of them) and his or her family for their contributions to our country, health and well being. We owe them greatly.
Thank you for recognizing the need to be thankful. Its an attractive virtue.
Only the best to each of you.
Lisa Spahr
Friday, November 7, 2008
Reading to Guide You
Clients and friends often ask my advice on reading materials for various outcomes. Here are my general thoughts.
I highly encourage you to be a active member of any national or international groups in your profession. Pick only one and become a part of it. Make sure they deliver at least monthly news from the field (peer reviewed ideally)- what is working, what's not, and what is on the cutting edge. Remember that your education shouldn't stop at any point in your successful career. You should be at the height of up-to-date knowledge in your field, know the key players well, and contribute to the information sharing.
As a business person I subscribe to Inc., Fast Company, Entrepreneur, and Forbes Magazines. I subscribe to a few others but have to confess that they don't excite me very much. Forbes, is in fact on the lower side of enjoyment for me, but I love the Executive Women issues that come out seasonally.
Read for education, inspiration, enjoyment for the field and to break away from the normal day-to-day stuff. Your brain needs it. Your business needs it.
Oh, and for pleasure, I subscribe to Cooking Light and Real Simple. They just make my life better.
I encourage you to comment on your own reading lists (books, blogs, magazines, etc...).
Happy Reading!
I highly encourage you to be a active member of any national or international groups in your profession. Pick only one and become a part of it. Make sure they deliver at least monthly news from the field (peer reviewed ideally)- what is working, what's not, and what is on the cutting edge. Remember that your education shouldn't stop at any point in your successful career. You should be at the height of up-to-date knowledge in your field, know the key players well, and contribute to the information sharing.
As a business person I subscribe to Inc., Fast Company, Entrepreneur, and Forbes Magazines. I subscribe to a few others but have to confess that they don't excite me very much. Forbes, is in fact on the lower side of enjoyment for me, but I love the Executive Women issues that come out seasonally.
Read for education, inspiration, enjoyment for the field and to break away from the normal day-to-day stuff. Your brain needs it. Your business needs it.
Oh, and for pleasure, I subscribe to Cooking Light and Real Simple. They just make my life better.
I encourage you to comment on your own reading lists (books, blogs, magazines, etc...).
Happy Reading!
Monday, November 3, 2008
Vote Because You Can!
I can't think of one person that should not be heading to the polls tomorrow, November 4th. Further, I cannot think of one person who should not be engaged in conversation about the election. It has been lively... and at times passionately negative. Some conflict is good for the soul. Its a great time to get your brain flowing with thought, creativity, and excitement.
I believe you have a responsibility to yourself and your community to vote. I believe that if you fail to cast your ballot you should not speak one word about the state of affairs- and your associated grumblings to go along with it. You have no voice with me if you don't show up at the polls.
I have changed my mind in this election. My decision-making process has been filled with challenges. However, I organized my priorities and then looked to each candidate (presidential and vice presidential, and local) to see who best mirrored what mattered to me most. The decision wasn't as clear as most others I make in my life. Some of my priorities rested with one candidate and others with another. But, I had to make peace with my choice - which considering overall character of each candidate.
I have daily conversations with my partner on our opposing views. It helps us understand each other and reaffirm what is most important to us. The fact we can have these issues on the table- even while sitting at opposite ends- makes me respect our relationship even more.
I look forward to making my voice heard tomorrow. I look forward to seeing you do the same.
Vote. Vote with confidence that you've done your homework and you've chosen the best choice for you and your community.
I believe you have a responsibility to yourself and your community to vote. I believe that if you fail to cast your ballot you should not speak one word about the state of affairs- and your associated grumblings to go along with it. You have no voice with me if you don't show up at the polls.
I have changed my mind in this election. My decision-making process has been filled with challenges. However, I organized my priorities and then looked to each candidate (presidential and vice presidential, and local) to see who best mirrored what mattered to me most. The decision wasn't as clear as most others I make in my life. Some of my priorities rested with one candidate and others with another. But, I had to make peace with my choice - which considering overall character of each candidate.
I have daily conversations with my partner on our opposing views. It helps us understand each other and reaffirm what is most important to us. The fact we can have these issues on the table- even while sitting at opposite ends- makes me respect our relationship even more.
I look forward to making my voice heard tomorrow. I look forward to seeing you do the same.
Vote. Vote with confidence that you've done your homework and you've chosen the best choice for you and your community.
Friday, October 31, 2008
What is Your Formula?
I hear it often. "Lisa, how did you do that?" That question is one of the pivotal keys to my becoming a life coach. I wanted to help others "do that"- whatever that was for them.
People are often disappointed with me when I can't answer them the way they want. They are looking for a course that I took, a book I read, an experience I had- that they can replicate to do the same thing. It just doesn't work that way.
Its like asking a painter how they paint or how they become inspired. Its a really hard question to answer.
Or, asking the engineer to explain how they are doing their work- it would take hours, days and maybe weeks. If they give you the broad answer you might be unhappy- you want more- yet you don't want to spend the 4+ years in education that they did learning their trade.
I often say, "that's just who I am and what I do". That isn't good enough for them. They want more. I understand that.
The truth is it comes naturally for me- because of my formula.
I get paid to give advice. And, I'd like to say that I think my advice is spot on at least 90% of the time. How do I derive at such advice- that is successful? Well, the answer is in my formula. We all have one.
The formula includes my 18 years of formal education, the dozens of various courses I took outside of that; my 23 years work experience (yes, I've been working since the age of 12) for small shops and large corporations; my upbringing and background; my voracious learning, observation and reading; my methodology for decision making and processing; the company I keep; my beliefs; my values; my creativity; ..... you see where this is going. Who I am is how I work. A simple answer doesn't exist to "how I do it".
What's your formula? How do you do what you do?
People are often disappointed with me when I can't answer them the way they want. They are looking for a course that I took, a book I read, an experience I had- that they can replicate to do the same thing. It just doesn't work that way.
Its like asking a painter how they paint or how they become inspired. Its a really hard question to answer.
Or, asking the engineer to explain how they are doing their work- it would take hours, days and maybe weeks. If they give you the broad answer you might be unhappy- you want more- yet you don't want to spend the 4+ years in education that they did learning their trade.
I often say, "that's just who I am and what I do". That isn't good enough for them. They want more. I understand that.
The truth is it comes naturally for me- because of my formula.
I get paid to give advice. And, I'd like to say that I think my advice is spot on at least 90% of the time. How do I derive at such advice- that is successful? Well, the answer is in my formula. We all have one.
The formula includes my 18 years of formal education, the dozens of various courses I took outside of that; my 23 years work experience (yes, I've been working since the age of 12) for small shops and large corporations; my upbringing and background; my voracious learning, observation and reading; my methodology for decision making and processing; the company I keep; my beliefs; my values; my creativity; ..... you see where this is going. Who I am is how I work. A simple answer doesn't exist to "how I do it".
What's your formula? How do you do what you do?
Monday, October 27, 2008
Are You a Champion?
Spahr Consulting has launched the Champions Series!
For the price of dinner you can invest in yourself and your business- with other Champions! Finally -a flavor of coaching that fits your needs.
The Champions Series and Champions Membership is open to those who are interested in personal and business growth. A Champion is one who invests in him/herself and recognizes the potential for improvement in all areas.
The Champions Series:
- will introduce you to other Champions;
- welcome you to a HOT topic meeting each month; and
- foster you in identifying and achieving your goals in a positive and productive setting.
The Champions Series Meeting will be held Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Topic: Cultivating the Leader in You!
The program takes place in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, however Champions who do not live here or are unable to attend receive an MP3 version for convenient download.
There are more than 295,000 books on leadership at Amazon.com. Wow. Where do you begin?
Are you born a leader or do you learn and practice leadership? What are the top 5 qualities that a leader must possess to be effective? Who determines your effectiveness? This seminar will give you the formula for cultivating the leader in you- in an hour! Beat that!
Join the Champions Series today.
Membership Includes:
Ø Weekly Electronic Coaching Moments
Ø Monthly Champions Meeting
Ø Invitation to 1 Guest Per Month to Champions Meeting for $10
Ø 15-Minute Personal Coaching Each Month (via telephone)
Ø Exclusive Options to Upgrade Coaching in the Future
If you do not have a Membership Application please email Lspahr@spahrconsulting.com and request one or visit www.spahrconsulting.com for more information.
We look forward to working with the Champion in you!
For the price of dinner you can invest in yourself and your business- with other Champions! Finally -a flavor of coaching that fits your needs.
The Champions Series and Champions Membership is open to those who are interested in personal and business growth. A Champion is one who invests in him/herself and recognizes the potential for improvement in all areas.
The Champions Series:
- will introduce you to other Champions;
- welcome you to a HOT topic meeting each month; and
- foster you in identifying and achieving your goals in a positive and productive setting.
The Champions Series Meeting will be held Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Topic: Cultivating the Leader in You!
The program takes place in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, however Champions who do not live here or are unable to attend receive an MP3 version for convenient download.
There are more than 295,000 books on leadership at Amazon.com. Wow. Where do you begin?
Are you born a leader or do you learn and practice leadership? What are the top 5 qualities that a leader must possess to be effective? Who determines your effectiveness? This seminar will give you the formula for cultivating the leader in you- in an hour! Beat that!
Join the Champions Series today.
Membership Includes:
Ø Weekly Electronic Coaching Moments
Ø Monthly Champions Meeting
Ø Invitation to 1 Guest Per Month to Champions Meeting for $10
Ø 15-Minute Personal Coaching Each Month (via telephone)
Ø Exclusive Options to Upgrade Coaching in the Future
If you do not have a Membership Application please email Lspahr@spahrconsulting.com and request one or visit www.spahrconsulting.com for more information.
We look forward to working with the Champion in you!
Friday, October 24, 2008
Choosing the Best Life for Yourself: 5 Tips
What are 5 things I can do today to improve my life?
(I'm glad you asked.)
1. Get a library card and go- each week
Read. Read. Read. And, hang out with people who do.
2. Turn off the TV with very few exceptions
Watch what really matters to you- and limit the time you do so to no more than 30 minutes a day.
3. Spend time each day evaluating who you are and where you want to go
Meditate. Give thanks. Reach far. Dare to dream. Inspire others. Find your inspiration.
4. Take pride in what you look and feel like
Fix yourself. Clean yourself up. Stop smoking. Walk daily. Wear only what fits and looks good. Allow your appearance and self care to open doors for you.
5. Choose your associates carefully
We are who we keep. Rid yourself of drama and negative filled people. Choose those you want to spend time with and love. Make sure they contribute to your life in a good way - and you do the same for them.
Live well. Live better.
If you like this blog, join my electronic monthly newsletter- Living Better Newsletter. Each month we have offers for members (membership is free), tips on living better, and other good things for your life. Enjoy.
Thank you for making my blog a part of your week. I blog every Monday and Friday- unless I'm on travel.
Lisa
(I'm glad you asked.)
1. Get a library card and go- each week
Read. Read. Read. And, hang out with people who do.
2. Turn off the TV with very few exceptions
Watch what really matters to you- and limit the time you do so to no more than 30 minutes a day.
3. Spend time each day evaluating who you are and where you want to go
Meditate. Give thanks. Reach far. Dare to dream. Inspire others. Find your inspiration.
4. Take pride in what you look and feel like
Fix yourself. Clean yourself up. Stop smoking. Walk daily. Wear only what fits and looks good. Allow your appearance and self care to open doors for you.
5. Choose your associates carefully
We are who we keep. Rid yourself of drama and negative filled people. Choose those you want to spend time with and love. Make sure they contribute to your life in a good way - and you do the same for them.
Live well. Live better.
If you like this blog, join my electronic monthly newsletter- Living Better Newsletter. Each month we have offers for members (membership is free), tips on living better, and other good things for your life. Enjoy.
Thank you for making my blog a part of your week. I blog every Monday and Friday- unless I'm on travel.
Lisa
Monday, October 20, 2008
For 10 Minutes Do What You Want
I'd like you to close your door. Turn off all sounds. And, think.
Think of what you'd do today if you had 10 million in the bank.
What would your day look like?
Really think about this for 10 minutes. How would you live?
Now, ask 4 friends or colleagues the same question- today.
Email me your answers at lspahr@spahrconsulting.com
Think of what you'd do today if you had 10 million in the bank.
What would your day look like?
Really think about this for 10 minutes. How would you live?
Now, ask 4 friends or colleagues the same question- today.
Email me your answers at lspahr@spahrconsulting.com
Friday, October 17, 2008
Bank Tellers Can't Add- A warning to business owners
An unnerving incident occurred this week that highlighted the decisions we make in business- and how those decisions may be adversely effecting our favorite clients.
I was at my trusty bank, where I have several accounts, and the teller asks if she could assist me with anything else (good move). I said, yes, there was a pesky charge on one of my accounts for a service fee I didn't recognize.
Problem 1: The teller could view the service fee line item but it was not a description of the fee itself- she had to go to a list of fees and match up the amount to see what it could possibly be
Problem 2: Together we deduced that it was a service fee for a deposit, some time ago, where I added the slip wrong- and the teller didn't catch it. So, the incorrect amount was posted to my account only to be later remedied by corporate. Aren't tellers supposed to check your deposits? Isn't that one of the primary responsibilities they have?
Activities like this make me question the business leaders at work. The bank is supposed to be my advisor and manager of my money. I pay them to do so. I trust them to do so. So, when they fail to do so- why and how are they charging me? Outrageous! I told the lovely teller that this error has me reevaluating my banking options. I further thought it was underhanded of them not to have a description in the line item for the service fee- why not be 100% transparent?
Businesses this is a lesson for you. Don't allow someone to tell you that you should charge your clients, additionally, for things that should be staples in your business. Be mindful that your best clients are finicky and will walk if they feel undervalued. Be smart about your fee structures. Be honest and fair in how you treat your clients. But, above all else, do your job and do it with the utmost of integrity!
I was at my trusty bank, where I have several accounts, and the teller asks if she could assist me with anything else (good move). I said, yes, there was a pesky charge on one of my accounts for a service fee I didn't recognize.
Problem 1: The teller could view the service fee line item but it was not a description of the fee itself- she had to go to a list of fees and match up the amount to see what it could possibly be
Problem 2: Together we deduced that it was a service fee for a deposit, some time ago, where I added the slip wrong- and the teller didn't catch it. So, the incorrect amount was posted to my account only to be later remedied by corporate. Aren't tellers supposed to check your deposits? Isn't that one of the primary responsibilities they have?
Activities like this make me question the business leaders at work. The bank is supposed to be my advisor and manager of my money. I pay them to do so. I trust them to do so. So, when they fail to do so- why and how are they charging me? Outrageous! I told the lovely teller that this error has me reevaluating my banking options. I further thought it was underhanded of them not to have a description in the line item for the service fee- why not be 100% transparent?
Businesses this is a lesson for you. Don't allow someone to tell you that you should charge your clients, additionally, for things that should be staples in your business. Be mindful that your best clients are finicky and will walk if they feel undervalued. Be smart about your fee structures. Be honest and fair in how you treat your clients. But, above all else, do your job and do it with the utmost of integrity!
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Blinkers are Good Indicators
Part rant. Part lesson.
I am not surprised but still disheartened when I witness bad driving habits. I am angered when those habits border on causing serious injury to someone.
This happens often but is still somewhat humorous to me:
I'm driving along on a 4-lane street. I can tell from my neighbor driver (parallel to me) that they want over, not because their blinker (turn signal) is on, but by the way they are aggressively looking at me and feverishly braking or speeding up (they change their mind and speed every 3 seconds)! I like to think that I am many things to many people. But, a mind reader, sir or madam, I am not! Nor, should I have to read your other signals to know what it is you intend to do. That is in fact, what the great blinker was made for. Use it!
Another day. Another experience.
I was driving somewhere at 6 AM. The only other fool on the road happened to be on my back bumper as though we were in a demolition derby. They were in such a rush I thought they were literally going to run me over. The only person who has a right to drive that way, in my opinion, is someone with emergency lights on their vehicle. Where was he so anxious to go? The gas station. No joke. He pulled into the gas station as I sat at the light. Rather than chance an accident- how about getting up 10 minutes earlier and making the world a little safer? I know I sometimes come up with wild ideas. Just try me.
I think that blinkers are good indicators as to your personality. I believe that people who don't use them believe they are better than everyone else. They think they are better drivers and don't need to use them. They also speed more than those who use their blinkers. The aggression and arrogance seep out in other arenas too. They are in a hurry (yes, their time is more valuable than ours- didn't you know) and they have no problem angering or frightening you to help them move along at a more acceptable pace. (I know, now I sound like I'm 100 years old.)
Do you want to hire these people? Do you want to have them watch your children or coach them? Is one your boss?
I'm a blinker user (full disclosure: 98% of the time). And, I'm proud of it. I'm honest, respectful, cautious and mindful of others, and I don't believe my journey should seriously impact another person. I am NOT in emergency services. I shouldn't drive like I am.
I welcome blinkers in my life. I encourage non-blinkers to anger management and true leadership training. They have a lot of great qualities we can harness once we get them under control.
Thanks for allowing the rant and lesson within. Don't be a non-blinker. Its ugly.
I am not surprised but still disheartened when I witness bad driving habits. I am angered when those habits border on causing serious injury to someone.
This happens often but is still somewhat humorous to me:
I'm driving along on a 4-lane street. I can tell from my neighbor driver (parallel to me) that they want over, not because their blinker (turn signal) is on, but by the way they are aggressively looking at me and feverishly braking or speeding up (they change their mind and speed every 3 seconds)! I like to think that I am many things to many people. But, a mind reader, sir or madam, I am not! Nor, should I have to read your other signals to know what it is you intend to do. That is in fact, what the great blinker was made for. Use it!
Another day. Another experience.
I was driving somewhere at 6 AM. The only other fool on the road happened to be on my back bumper as though we were in a demolition derby. They were in such a rush I thought they were literally going to run me over. The only person who has a right to drive that way, in my opinion, is someone with emergency lights on their vehicle. Where was he so anxious to go? The gas station. No joke. He pulled into the gas station as I sat at the light. Rather than chance an accident- how about getting up 10 minutes earlier and making the world a little safer? I know I sometimes come up with wild ideas. Just try me.
I think that blinkers are good indicators as to your personality. I believe that people who don't use them believe they are better than everyone else. They think they are better drivers and don't need to use them. They also speed more than those who use their blinkers. The aggression and arrogance seep out in other arenas too. They are in a hurry (yes, their time is more valuable than ours- didn't you know) and they have no problem angering or frightening you to help them move along at a more acceptable pace. (I know, now I sound like I'm 100 years old.)
Do you want to hire these people? Do you want to have them watch your children or coach them? Is one your boss?
I'm a blinker user (full disclosure: 98% of the time). And, I'm proud of it. I'm honest, respectful, cautious and mindful of others, and I don't believe my journey should seriously impact another person. I am NOT in emergency services. I shouldn't drive like I am.
I welcome blinkers in my life. I encourage non-blinkers to anger management and true leadership training. They have a lot of great qualities we can harness once we get them under control.
Thanks for allowing the rant and lesson within. Don't be a non-blinker. Its ugly.
Monday, October 6, 2008
The Nuts to Networking
If you are new to networking, don't worry. It gets easier.
Here are some of the essentials to networking:
Here are some of the essentials to networking:
- Identify your business in 60 seconds. This is called your "commercial". You should be able to effectively engage another business owner with what you say. The key is to be (a) interesting and (b) helpful in conveying what you do. You want them to ask you questions about your business. The commercial shouldn't be so vague they don't know what to ask- or worse, they don't want to ask anything. You can talk about a perfect client or a special you are featuring. You can tell a very short story about who would need your services. Have fun with it and try out different commercials or "60 seconds".
- Identify three great networking events per month to attend (or more). A great networking event will attract other business owners that you want to get to know. They may have a similar client base as you do. If you sell office supplies to large companies you don't want to go to a networking group with all home-based businesses. Do some investigative work so that you make the best use of your time. Some networking groups meet weekly and others meet monthly. The more frequently you meet the more you are likely to get to know each other- which is where business will start to happen. So, don't be afraid to go more often.
- If the thought of going into a room of people frightens you to death, take a partner. Introduce each other. Be bold. Be friendly. Networking is part of business. Get out there!
- Each month identify 4 people you want to get to know better. Meet them for coffee and learn about each others businesses.
- Repeat
Networking is easier for some than it is for others. Don't worry. It gets easier as you do it. And, the rewards to doing it well are endless.
Friday, October 3, 2008
Fight the Blues Anyway You Can
Don't lose sight of what is important. Don't fall off track.
The easiest way to stay focused is to use your time and spend your time remaining positive about yourself and your goals. Don't allow negativity (about the economy, conflict between others, etc...) to alter your plan.
Remind yourself of your goals daily. First thing in the morning, spend a few minutes saying what matters most to you on this day. Reaffirm your dedication to your goals by saying them one by one. Remember how wealthy you are (richness is not measured in dollars but the quality of our fabric- and those we have in our circles).
Ignore the negative stimuli that seems to surround us on a daily basis in the paper, on the television, in the idle chat our our colleagues, etc.... Avoid it.
You can easily be consumed with negativity IF you allow yourself to be. Equally as easy, is blocking that stimuli from consuming you.
You choose.
The easiest way to stay focused is to use your time and spend your time remaining positive about yourself and your goals. Don't allow negativity (about the economy, conflict between others, etc...) to alter your plan.
Remind yourself of your goals daily. First thing in the morning, spend a few minutes saying what matters most to you on this day. Reaffirm your dedication to your goals by saying them one by one. Remember how wealthy you are (richness is not measured in dollars but the quality of our fabric- and those we have in our circles).
Ignore the negative stimuli that seems to surround us on a daily basis in the paper, on the television, in the idle chat our our colleagues, etc.... Avoid it.
You can easily be consumed with negativity IF you allow yourself to be. Equally as easy, is blocking that stimuli from consuming you.
You choose.
Monday, September 29, 2008
Hygiene in the Workplace: It Matters
Last week I was shopping at a major retailer for business supplies. What I witnessed prompted this weeks blog.
I'm far from a germophobe- you can ask my friends and family. However, I realize that the world is getting more health conscious. People are paying attention to illness origin and germs more than they ever have before. Companies have moved to the motto- if you are sick, stay home. That has become an order to promote faster healing as well as keeping the healthy workforce healthy.
The cashier at this major chain had a chronic cough- every 5 seconds she was coughing. Sometimes she'd cover her mouth, other times she wouldn't. She then began picking at her lips with her fingers- a nervous habit or one out of boredom. She was using these same fingers to punch details into the cash register, take my credit card, and touch my purchases. Yuck. Even I was offended. She told me to have a great day. I told her that I hoped she would feel better. And, she looked at me as though I was crazy. Maybe she felt great.
Business owners beware. Part of your training needs to include hygiene and illness. What are employees to do when they are sick? How sick? What behaviors are acceptable in the workplace and not so. We are all familiar with hygiene and behaviors in the food industry. Let's set many of those same standards in other workplaces to foster better business, happier employees and customers, and a healthier environment.
Here's to your health.
I'm far from a germophobe- you can ask my friends and family. However, I realize that the world is getting more health conscious. People are paying attention to illness origin and germs more than they ever have before. Companies have moved to the motto- if you are sick, stay home. That has become an order to promote faster healing as well as keeping the healthy workforce healthy.
The cashier at this major chain had a chronic cough- every 5 seconds she was coughing. Sometimes she'd cover her mouth, other times she wouldn't. She then began picking at her lips with her fingers- a nervous habit or one out of boredom. She was using these same fingers to punch details into the cash register, take my credit card, and touch my purchases. Yuck. Even I was offended. She told me to have a great day. I told her that I hoped she would feel better. And, she looked at me as though I was crazy. Maybe she felt great.
Business owners beware. Part of your training needs to include hygiene and illness. What are employees to do when they are sick? How sick? What behaviors are acceptable in the workplace and not so. We are all familiar with hygiene and behaviors in the food industry. Let's set many of those same standards in other workplaces to foster better business, happier employees and customers, and a healthier environment.
Here's to your health.
Friday, September 26, 2008
"I'll do that later." The Procrastinator's Theme
This week I was at a corporation delivering a talk on stress reduction. An employee approached me and asked what advice I have for the chronic procrastinator.
If you have trouble "doing something now" and always seem to "put off til tomorrow.... or tomorrow's tomorrow..." here are a few simple suggestions to getting it done.
List those things you are putting off.
List those things you'll do right away (scheduling a spa day, grabbing lunch, hitting the happy hour circuit, etc...)
Assign a pairing of something you put off and something you have no problem doing such as... I will make 5 calls and THEN I can go to lunch.
Or, make it a string of things to do before enjoying a pleasurable item or event ... I will do three things (list them specifically) on my list before I get to schedule my weekend.
Be disciplined. Be on top of all of the things on your list- including those you don't like.
Don't put off til tomorrow those things you've been doing so for a month. Drop it completely or get it done.
If you have trouble "doing something now" and always seem to "put off til tomorrow.... or tomorrow's tomorrow..." here are a few simple suggestions to getting it done.
List those things you are putting off.
List those things you'll do right away (scheduling a spa day, grabbing lunch, hitting the happy hour circuit, etc...)
Assign a pairing of something you put off and something you have no problem doing such as... I will make 5 calls and THEN I can go to lunch.
Or, make it a string of things to do before enjoying a pleasurable item or event ... I will do three things (list them specifically) on my list before I get to schedule my weekend.
Be disciplined. Be on top of all of the things on your list- including those you don't like.
Don't put off til tomorrow those things you've been doing so for a month. Drop it completely or get it done.
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Put on Your Consumer Vision
I often speak to groups about networking and building a successful business.
It often surprises me that people fail to try to see things from a consumer aspect.
To build a successful business you need to offer three things:
1. Be there (in person, on mind, and at their fingertips) and ready to deliver
2. Make a favorable and lasting impression
3. Provide value (not the cheapest price!)
To do the above you have to look at your business from a consumer standpoint. You already think you do all three. But, do they? Why don't more think that of you and your business?
I challenge you to partner up with a fellow business professional (not your best friend) and offer to review each others businesses with your consumer vision or consumer goggles. It would go something like this:
It often surprises me that people fail to try to see things from a consumer aspect.
To build a successful business you need to offer three things:
1. Be there (in person, on mind, and at their fingertips) and ready to deliver
2. Make a favorable and lasting impression
3. Provide value (not the cheapest price!)
To do the above you have to look at your business from a consumer standpoint. You already think you do all three. But, do they? Why don't more think that of you and your business?
I challenge you to partner up with a fellow business professional (not your best friend) and offer to review each others businesses with your consumer vision or consumer goggles. It would go something like this:
- We each agree to spend 3 hours reviewing each others businesses over the next 30 days
- We will review the following materials or items: (examples) storefront, business cards, marketing materials, philosophy, presence in the community, etc...
- We will deliver a written report to each other on such a date when we meet for coffee. The report will include our impressions of the materials, recommendations and/or feedback on how to improve them and our overall impression of your business (in the three key aspects stated above in this blog).
Now, just because your business partner doesn't accept each recommendation doesn't mean the exercise was not valuable. Remember, business is not personal! You learned about your business from another persons perspective- and you offered your valuable insight to them on theirs. You've already won by doing the exercise.
Monday, September 15, 2008
Have You Overstayed Your Welcome?
Have you reached a plateau in your career with your current employer?
Have you found the last year to be unstimulating and/or sterile?
Do the years look the same?
Many people find themselves in the comfort of the "same old same old". Only, it really isn't comfortable we just convince ourselves that it is. And, given that change can sometimes be difficult- we make excuses to stay where we are even though we are no longer challenged at work.
Our work, our employment, is a significant piece of our lives. It should be empowering, stimulating, positive, life-fulfilling, and rewarding. It is essential that you recognize the signs when this is no longer the case. When that happens you have to be prepared to make a move.
Some of the things you can do:
Speak with your supervisor to see if there is a special project you can take on.
Evaluate your own performance- maybe the lack of stimulation is with you.
Look at the company offerings. Is there something you want?
Survey the industry in which you work. What is out there that excites you?
Evaluate your desire to switch industries. Are you ready? Where do you see yourself?
Update your resume for those opportunities you may want.
Don't stay in a dead end job. Don't let talk of a bad economy hold you back. Stop allowing excuses to rule your years.
Your current job may have served its role in your life. Now, its time to find your next adventure. That adventure may be as simple as a new project at work. Or, it could mean a life-changing switch in your career.
Have you found the last year to be unstimulating and/or sterile?
Do the years look the same?
Many people find themselves in the comfort of the "same old same old". Only, it really isn't comfortable we just convince ourselves that it is. And, given that change can sometimes be difficult- we make excuses to stay where we are even though we are no longer challenged at work.
Our work, our employment, is a significant piece of our lives. It should be empowering, stimulating, positive, life-fulfilling, and rewarding. It is essential that you recognize the signs when this is no longer the case. When that happens you have to be prepared to make a move.
Some of the things you can do:
Speak with your supervisor to see if there is a special project you can take on.
Evaluate your own performance- maybe the lack of stimulation is with you.
Look at the company offerings. Is there something you want?
Survey the industry in which you work. What is out there that excites you?
Evaluate your desire to switch industries. Are you ready? Where do you see yourself?
Update your resume for those opportunities you may want.
Don't stay in a dead end job. Don't let talk of a bad economy hold you back. Stop allowing excuses to rule your years.
Your current job may have served its role in your life. Now, its time to find your next adventure. That adventure may be as simple as a new project at work. Or, it could mean a life-changing switch in your career.
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