Thursday, April 28, 2011

Coaching Moment #167 Difficult Conversations

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#167 Difficult Conversations


A year ago I read this and it impacted me significantly. “A man’s success can be judged by how many uncomfortable conversations he is willing to have.” I pondered this for a while and realized how very true it is. Recall how freeing it is to finally get that tough conversation over and done with. I encourage you to do so this week. If you’ve been dreading the talk- have it. You’ll feel better and likely so with they.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Coaching Moment #166 Renewal

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#166 Renewal  


Spring has sprung. More or less. The season represents growth and replenishment. Let the season inspire you to grow and replenish in the ways you need to. Identify 2 areas that you want to work on over the next three months.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Product Pushers! Don't Become One.

No one likes a bully. And, pushers have a bad reputation for a reason. So, why on earth would you force yoru product or service on someone?

For months I've been finding unsolicited newspapers from the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette in my lawn or on top of my hedges. I see them littering the lawns of my neighbors as well. I've even heard of it happening in other neighborhoods.

So, every couple days we wander out in the lawn (the front lawn, which we rarely use) to find and pick up unwanted newspapers. Then, we toss them in the recycling bin. What a waste! Literally and figuratively!

Let this be an example of how you can be a pusher and actually create a loathing relationship with a potential client. Don't do it.

As an aside, I expect it will take a new law to get them to stop. I've browsed their website looking for a phone number to call to complain or comment box.... nope, not one to be found. Sure, I can just call their main number.... how helpful do you think they'll be? Maybe I'll take bets on this one. :)

Friday, April 15, 2011

Coaching Moment #165 Weekly Challenge

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#165 Weekly Challenge


What has been your greatest challenge this week? Identify what/who it is and then talk about it with a trusted unbiased source. You shouldn’t handle all of your challenges alone. Great things can come from sharing your challenges with others.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Coaching Tip of the Month: April 2011 Finding Your Today's Beauty

We all want to change some things (house projects underway, those 5 or 10 lbs to lose, more money in the paycheck...). Okay. But, don't let your current suffer for what may or may not come tomorrow. The key to success and happiness is doing the best with what you currently have (or don't have). Focus on what you are/have today and make the best of it.

Rather than wait until you lose the pounds, give yourself an in-home spa treatment (or go get one at your favorite spa); put on your best outfit (or go splurge on one); stand up straight (pretend you have a book on your head like the old movies threatened us with) and go out somewhere. Be your best self today. Show us what you've got.

Rather than wait for that extra cash in your paycheck, take a good look at what you currently have and devise a plan to spend a little in a new way. Treat yourself to a lunch or dinner deal (one that you wouldn't normally), give to your favorite charity (even if it's only a small donation), or finally put some money down on that bigger item you've been eyeing up. Start somewhere. Starting small is better than not starting.

Don't wait for change to be happy. Be happy while changing.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Coaching Moment #164 $1,000 Gift

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#164 $1,000 Gift


Imagine you had $1,000 given to you today. The gift stipulates that you can only spend the money on other people or charities. You cannot spend it on yourself or on things that directly benefit you. Where would you give your money? How would it be distributed among the people or causes that are important to you?

Now, when is the last time you spend time/money with those people or charities? Remember you don’t have to wait for a gift of $1,000 or to make a sizable donation to make a difference.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Coaching Moment #163 Here’s Your Genie!

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#163 Here’s Your Genie!


Imagine I gave you a genie in a bottle. You could make only one wish and the wish would only be true for 24 hours, starting now. What would you wish for? Why did you choose that wish?

Spend a few quiet and uninterrupted minutes thinking about this now. Or, think about it over the next few hours as you go about your routine and come to a decision by end of day. This will raise your awareness of what you want and/or need.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Poor Business Lingo

When someone asks you for something are you the kind of person (1) to do it or (2) do you point out where they can find it or do it themselves? And, which of these people are your employees?

Today I had an encounter with a food industry employee that made me chuckle. I asked her which meal was which (the example could be vegan versus vegetarian or sausage versus ham sandwich, you get the picture). She told me "it is marked". So, if you are a kind, polite, non-confrontational person you now begin the search for "the mark". If you are a tad more assertive you may ask the less-than-stellar employee to still TELL you which is which (perhaps she can't find the mark either!).

Either way, it is important that you teach your employees FIRST by example. SHOW them how to respond to this common question. But also, teach them why their first response (as above) may not be the one desired by you (the boss and paycheck signature). Help them understand desirable responses versus undesirable ones. Do some role play in training. And, you've read me advocate for this before.... send in the mystery shoppers. You need to know what your employees are saying to your customers and how they are responding. I bet your competition knows.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

#162 Do You Deny Yourself?

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#162 Do You Deny Yourself?


List the top 3 things you like to do. Now, when is the last time you’ve done each? Make sure you are making time for the things you love. Schedule each one in your calendar now. And, ask those around you what their top 3 are- and help them make time for them. They’ll appreciate you even more.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Coaching Moment #161Treat Yourself

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#161Treat Yourself


What is the last gift you gave to yourself? It could be a gadget, an experience, forgiveness, etc... Make sure that in the hustle and bustle of life you don’t neglect treating yourself well and recognizing what your needs and wants are.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

5 Steps to a Profitable Coaching Business

Five Steps to a Profitable Coaching Business


The primary revelation to any coach unlocking their financial potential is to first recognize that coaching is still an anomaly to most people. Therapy is widely understood, although still taboo in some circles. Mentoring is welcomed and expected to be free of charge. Consultants are well-paid professionals with expertise in a particular area and highly sought. Coaches… well, they have more education to offer before they achieve wide recognition and more lucrative contracts.

Coaches who choose to start and run their own business suffer the same challenges that other experts and professionals do, they don’t typically have an M.B.A. They haven’t been serial entrepreneurs. They aren’t versed in contract negotiation and business management basics. The majority are good or great coaches and mediocre business owners. The good news is that coaches tend to be ready for a good challenge. They are creative, resilient, and fast learners.

There are five basic steps to facilitate a coach becoming more profitable. These steps can be addressed in tandem.

 Step 1: Educating Others. Coaches must perfect their “commercials” to all audiences, potential clients and potential leads to clients, and address what they do, how they do it, what the benefits are, and why they are the best person for the job. Coaches must ensure they have the credentials, background, experiences and ability to perform their duties with positive results. Then, they must be able to share that experience verbally with prospects and groups that are helping them build your business.

 Step 2: Network. As a sole proprietor, or small business owner, a coach must develop a trusted network of other business professionals who can serve as their sales team. Relationships take time. Quality relationships can be a vital part of a coaching businesses’ growth over the next year. One of my own networks generated 64% of my business in 2008- the first full year of my private practice. Many networks are formalized with exclusive memberships and weekly or monthly meetings. Referrals and leads are tracked and taken seriously by all involved parties. Other networks are informal and built over a longer time with trusted friends and professionals in your circle, city, client base, etc…

 Step 3: Fast-Track M.B.A. Most coaches don’t have the time to commit to another intensive degree while building their coaching business. However, the business of business, so to speak, has to take center stage if they want to make coaching a profitable and successful part of their life. Most cities and online universities offer classes in contracts, simple accounting, governmental opportunities, etc… The Small Business Administration (www.sba.gov) is a good place to start learning about successful business ownership. How will you determine your pricing? What contract will you have in place to ensure a clear understanding of expectations, deliverables, secure payments, schedules and timelines, etc….? Coaches should also consider developing a team of professionals to assist them in the management of their business: accountants, financial advisors, attorneys, sub-contractors with various expertise, etc… Research and hire them early on. The earlier they are involved the better your business will be prepared to succeed.

 Step 4: Embrace Feedback. As the clients’ needs change a coach too should be ready to evolve and deliver. Understand their offerings and be willing to make adjustments as necessary to provide the services people need. If a town is undergoing an economic hardship or industry layoffs it may be wise to take additional training in career development and mapping, gain further understanding of seniors re-entering the workforce, and/or stand ready to address cultural shifts. Great coaches are hired and retained because of their trusted role in a person or company’s life. Their talents often reach much further than one area of expertise. Showing diversity and continual education to serve a client base and acquire new clients is a very attractive feature of any business.

 Step 5: Deliver Excellence. Treat every contact as a million-dollar one. Every client is the first and most important. Every person that the coach comes in contact with has the potential to become a raving fan. Raving fans produce more clients, thus more opportunities to produce raving fans. Businesses may be opened overnight but they build successfully overtime with loyal clients who sing a coaches praise at every turn. One dissatisfied client or company can set a business back years in reputation, track record of excellence and financially. If a coach agrees to take a contract at a price they can’t live with, they have no one but themselves to blame. They still must deliver as though it was their highest-paid contact with their best client. Their reputation and business is on the line.

These five steps will allow a coach to develop their coaching practice while recognizing that coaching is a business similar to many others and requires strong management to be profitable. As a coach, their role is clear. As a professional coach in business to be profitable, their role has just been amplified to include multiple other hats. With creativity, perseverance, and their keen interest and ability to learn, they’ll find the right fit as they complete these steps.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Coaching Moment #160 Feelings Assessment

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#160 Feelings Assessment


How are you feeling today? Optimistic, creative, cloudy, depressed…? Take time to assess your feelings each day. Think about what may have brought those feelings on. And, finally, act on them. If it’s a creative day, make sure you do something creative and you don’t waste it. If it’s a day full of clouds and depression, take extra care to do things that are calming, relaxing and enjoyable to recover.

Friday, March 4, 2011

Coaching Moment #159 Your Daily Allowance.

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.


#159 Your Daily Allowance.


How much money do you spend in a typical day? Right now, take a guess. Then, track your spending today (or do it for the weekend). Every dollar that you pull from your wallet or pay with credit should be noted and what it was used for. Finally, analyze the cost of what you spent with the benefits received. Was it worth it?

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Coaching Tip of the Month: March 2011 Persistence

Persistence pays off. Most people will never do something. Some will dare to do it once. Few will stick in there until the results are achieved. Which are you?

I was clearing out my filing cabinet to purge old data when I discovered a tattered and ripped piece of a magazine page. Here's what it said:

A word about persistence and determination....
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.
Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent.
Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'Press On' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.
-Calvin Coolidge
30th President of US (1872-1933)

To be more persistent, just practice it. Write down something you want to do. Tell people about it and ask them to ask you for updates. Do it. Continue to follow-up and repeat as necessary. Just work on being more persistent at one thing. Then another. Then another. Soon practice will make perfect (or near perfect) and you'll see the fruits of your labor.

When someone says they'll get back to you, don't wait around. Get back to them. Don't wait for answers, seek them out. Don't be afraid to ask busy people for an answer- likely you are on their list but way down there. They'll be appreciative they get to answer and move on.

Start to check things OFF your to-do list today.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Coaching Moment #147 100 Possessions

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

#147 100 Possessions


There is a popular book out now and a movement to dwindle your personal possessions down to 100 items. That includes shoes, clothing, books, utensils, etc… Could you do it? What 100 items could you not live without?

If the number were 1000 could you do it then? Do you have any idea how many items you have in your home? I dare you to stay right where you are and begin counting. Stop counting in 15 minutes and see how far you’ve gotten. Now, did you notice things you’ve not paid attention to in years? Are they really necessary?

Whether you believe this new trend to be insanity or brilliance, think about its greater awareness and application.

Friday, February 18, 2011

Coaching Moment #146 Take Only 5 Things

Coaching Moments used to be exclusively for my coaching clients and Champions members. We've now opened them up to share them with you via this blog. Coaching Moments are shared each Friday and meant to encourage you on your path to greater enjoyment and/or success- whatever you happen to be reaching for. They remind us to think about our paths, our decisions and our priorities. Hopefully they make you think about something and refocus. Enjoy.

# 146 Take Only 5 Things



What are your treasures in your home? Treasures are the things that we cherish most. If I told you to leave your home forever and take only 5 items with you- what would they be?


List them sitting where you are now. Then, go room to room and look at the things you have.


Let’s always focus on the things that are most important to us.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Referrals.. what to do with them?

When you get a referral you should do the following:
  • Whether or not you take it, you should immediately thank the person who gave it to you and reiterate how the client fit was (If it was spot on, let them know. If it wasn't a good client for you let them know why.) I also give the referring party a "referral fee" which is equal to a particular % of the client's package. Referral fees are a sensitive subject I know. But I opt to use them in my practice and I wouldn't have it any other way.
  • If the referral isn't ideal for you don't just let them hang out there. Call them back/ meet with them and refer them to someone else who may be better suited for them. And, follow-up with that party.
  • Treat them right. This goes without saying (or should) but sadly I see the tragedy of poor service time and time again. Every client and every referral you are given should be treated with the greatest level of respect, dignity and professionalism. You ruin far more than just one relationship when you deliver poor service (and that includes not getting back to people- even if they are not a good fit for you).
  • Meet with your referring partners at least quarterly to get to know how you can return the business. Are they expanding their line of work or taking on a new speciality that you need to be aware of. Return the referral.
  • Take time to follow-up with all parties involved. Did they receive the service they expected? Would they refer you again (specifically why or why not)? Was your referral what they wanted/needed? Did the client receive the care they'd expect (and you can be proud of)?

Friday, February 11, 2011

So You Want or Need a New Job?

Some of my clients are job-seekers who don't have a current position but most are currently employed but dissatisfied. Here are a few starter questions or comments, regardless which arena they are in:

  • Tell me what you love. What you really love to do. Don't worry about the monetary aspects, for now, just talk about what you enjoy doing with your time.
  • Now, let's see if there are ways we can make your loves part of your daily life. It may be through full-time, part-time or volunteer work but let's make it happen in some capacity. Work with trusting and supportive friends on this brainstorm or bring a coach in to help you. But don't give up on making the things you love part of your daily "work".
  • Remember that volunteers often become employees. If non-profit is your thing, volunteer for the place you want to work. Show them your talents and passions. Have patience and then pair it with a little persistence talking to the right people in the organization. Soon, you'll likely be working in the place that you were a volunteer and doing work that you were cut out to do.
  • Consider if now is a good time to take a part-time program at your local college for a new degree or certificate in a new field or one that will elevate your current status. You can always make time for the things that are important- so don't worry about where the time will come from. You'll find it if its a priority.
  • Do one of your friends do something you have interest in? Have you always been curious what their workday looks and feels like, really?  Why not ask them to allow you to shadow them for a week. Consider it an alternative vacation. Maybe you'll discover your next career.
  • Now, consider money. Consider making less. I know you didn't want to hear that but this is more likely than the opposite if you really want to step out and do something you love. At least for the first couple of years. It's a trade off but its well worth it. I've done it myself and it was life-altering and "freeing". If you have a financial planner sit down with him/her and figure out how you can live on 1/2 of what you currently make. Yes, I said half!  If that doesn't work, let me do it for you. You may not like me afterwards but I'm sure I can find ways to cut and reduce your spending. Remember, this is about finally doing something you enjoy doing- you may need to revisit many of your lifestyle choices. If you can't bear to do that - well then you might be doing just fine in your current line of work or waiting for that big lottery win.
  • Join a business group or social club- one with more than 50 members is a good measure. The point of doing this is to sample a variety of jobs that exist in your area. You may find yourself saying, "You get paid for that?"  I once worked for a military contractor and one of my projects was to learn a massive-multi player online game (Never Winter Nights) and teach it to Marines to evaluate generalization in weaponry resourcing and overall warfare training! (And, the irony there is I hate video games!)

Friday, February 4, 2011

Why Freecycle is Not for Me

I was chatting with another mom, who I greatly admire, and we were comparing notes. What we do. What services we use. Etc... You know how it goes. She mentioned they "freecycle". I had heard of it before but never signed up for the free program. So, I did- based on her recommendation.

I was on it a mere few hours when I realized it was not for me. Don't get me wrong, I think it's a FANTASTIC resource and it clearly works for hundreds if not thousands of people within an area. But for me... I don't think so. Here's why:
  • I value my time too much. To use this resource and "win" an offer you have to be lightning fast. Anything that isn't a size 48 men's brief goes within minutes. (I made that up by the way.) So, if like me, you subscribe to the daily digest to receive 1 email versus dozens- you'll see in the digest the offer AND THE RECEIVED of the same item.
  • I realize that I highly value the foundation and philosophy of freecycle and already participate. I donate all of my goods (that would otherwise end up in a landfill if I threw them away, yet they are perfectly usable) to Vietnam Veterans of America at least monthly. So, I give. The receiving part of this isn't exactly FREEcycle but I shop at recycled goods locations, consignment shops and thrift stores. So, I receive in a way that works for me and fits my budget too. I don't need free but I do enjoy reused and recycled with a partial price tag of the new value.
But maybe Freecycle is for you. Check them out: http://www.freecycle.org/

Vietnam Veterans of America (picks up at your home and provides a tax receipt): http://www.pickupplease.org/vva/veterans-donation.aspx?gclid=CKiM4bak76YCFUmo4AodkHg4IA

And my favorite consignment shop for babies and children: http://www.onceuponachildmonroeville.com/

Happy shopping and giving. Find what works for you.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Be Responsible for the Energy You Bring

As I was reading an interview with Oprah, she mentioned reading about a woman who had a stroke (I believe) and put a sign up on the door saying, "Be responsible for the energy you bring into this room." I stopped in my tracks. I love this saying and I've said it, albeit in various ways, for many years. The woman was in recovery and had lost some of her senses while heightening others. She could feel the energy others were bringing into the room. Many times they (the nurses) were just buying time until it was time to leave. Sometimes they were moody or in a rush, paying little attention to the patient or her well being.

I have often advised my clients to take inventory of who and what they surround themselves with. And without apology I have advised them to reconsider having people in their lives who are always negative, downers, takers, drama queens and kings, pessimistic, etc... you get my point. I also encourage them to be mindful of what they read, view and do. If you surround yourself with death and destruction its hard to be wildly optimistic and visionary about your or anyone else's future.

I have done the same in my life. I take great care in who and what I surround myself with. I have asked on more than one occasion, "do you have anything positive to tell me?" I've called on the carpet those people, former friends, who always call and always have negative things to talk about. They gossip. Their lives are a mess. They are done wrong by everyone. And, now they can add me to the list. Good bye.

When I was pregnant I hired an energy worker to do reiki on me and my baby. It was a wonderful twice a week experience. Energy is powerful. Be mindful of it. Allow it to foster your goals. And, recognize it when it is detrimental- and get rid of it or who ever is embodying it.